Meditation is, perhaps, one of the best habits that a man could ever have. It will make you calm, collected, and focused on your purpose. But what if you don’t know how to meditate?
That’s fine. Meditation is actually quite simple, but plenty of “gurus” insist on complicating it. I remember when I first started trying to learn, and it was so confusing!
Every so called expert has some weird different technique or way of meditating, but it doesn’t have to be that way—in fact, I’ve broken it down in to 5 simple steps. Here’s how to meditate for beginners.
Meditation is simple, but people insist on complicating it.
Here’s what you do:
That’s it. Like I said, it’s actually extremely simple.
But, if you want a little bit more information, then look below.
Here’s a little bit more detail on each of the steps—don’t over complicate it, though. When you’re learning how to meditate, what’s important is that you just give it a shot. It’s always better to take action, lest excess information paralyze your mind.
Again, meditation is very simple. You don’t have to get everything 100% right when you first start meditating.
Just start, and improve as you go.
Ideally you want to be somewhere secluded so that you can focus on learning how to meditate. Some people can meditate in the comfort of their own home—that’s great.
Others live in very noisy environments. There’s solutions for this, too.
When I first started meditating in college, I lived in a noisy dorm room. It was hard for me to find some peace and quiet. So, every time I wanted to meditate, I would walk to the campus arboretum and meditate there. If you live in a noisy environment, you’ll have to get creative.
Here are some places that you can learn how to meditate if you live in a noisy environment:
Some people recommend using earplugs, and you can do this if you have no other option, but I wouldn’t recommend it.
The reason is that you want to hear your breath and heartbeat (yes, you can hear your heartbeat with practice)—this gets you in touch with your body.
The important part here is that your spine is upright.
Many of the benefits of meditation come from the deep breaths that you take.
Most people breathe very shallowly throughout the entire day, so charging your body with deep breaths of oxygen and ridding yourself of toxins is a huge plus. This is why your spine should be upright.
Personally, I prefer to sit cross legged in my desk chair—this is most comfortable for me.
Find what works for you though. If you can’t sit upright comfortably, then you can lie down. Eventually you want to work your way towards sitting upright, but for now do what is comfortable.
You have to set a timer when you’re first learning how to meditate. If you don’t, you’ll be checking the clock every 2 minutes. This breaks your concentration over and over again.
If it’s your first time, then set a timer for 5 minutes. Each week add 5 minutes until you’re at 20 minutes a day.
You can use your phone timer, but I prefer a stopwatch.
I’m a big fan of G-Shock watches—I not only use them for timing my meditation sessions, but also for timing my rest in between sets, timing how long it’s been since my last meal, timing my morning routine, and literally everything else that I need to time.
I probably use the timer function on my watch at least 5x a day. I’ve had this watch for 2 years, and it still runs like a champ, even after subjecting it to all kinds of conditions (sauna, hot tub, outdoors, salt water, etc.).
I highly recommend a using watch, but you can also use a kitchen timer or your phone timer.
A lot of people say to “stop thinking,” when they’re trying to teach you how to meditate.
In my opinion, this is stupid, because you’ll just end up thinking, and then thinking “Damnit! Stop thinking. Wait, that was a thought! Ok stop. No wait—UGH.”
Instead, focus on your breath. Focus on taking slow, deep breaths.
There’s all kinds of different breathing patterns that you can utilize once you’ve got the basics down, but for now, when you’re first learning how to meditate, just breathe slowly at a pace that is comfortable for you.
You’ll want to keep your eyes shut, as well. The idea is to minimize external stimulus so you can hone your focus onto a single thing (your breath).
This is the most important part of meditation—it’s also the hardest part. When you’re first learning how to meditate, you will encounter a lot of resistance from your thoughts.
Most people are addicted to thoughts. Some people are addicted to victimizing thoughts, some are addicted to dwelling on the past, and some are addicted to anxiety about the future.
Meditation fixes all of this, but not without some difficulty on your part.
When you first start to meditate, you’ll notice that your mind won’t calm down. This is normal. The goal of meditation is to disidentify with your mind—so when a thought pops into your head, don’t get emotional over it.
Don’t entertain it. Don’t think about it. Just let it float by like a cloud. Let it pass by you—do not judge it, do not chase it and start thinking about other things, just accept it and let it pass by you.
Again, this is the hardest part—but with time, you will be able to watch your thoughts roll by like clouds, without judging them.
Sometimes, you may even experience ego death as I did. When you start to realize that you aren’t your thoughts, but the thing that’s observing them, it can sometimes be very difficult to accept.
But, if you persevere, you will emerge a far more powerful, focused, and influential individual.
That’s it—a simple, 5-step guide on meditation for beginners. You can start doing this TODAY, with no excuses.
If you’re interested in meditation and becoming a more conscious, fully awakened man, consider reading some of the best books on spirituality.
You now have everything that you need to start meditating, so start. Do not click onto another article and just keep reading things without taking massive action.
Once you start meditating, you’ll notice some of the benefits within a week. You’ll find yourself being more calm, collected, and focused.
But you have to take action. If you have any questions, comments, or concerns, feel free to shoot me a message below. I’ll see you guys next time.
Jon Anthony is a world renowned dating coach and the founder of Masculine Development, a website specifically dedicated to helping men improve their personal, dating, and financial lives. After years of training men how to attract women, build muscle, and make more money, Jon created the "7 Strategies" program to help kickstart your journey to success. Jon firmly believes that every man should have control over his own life, and he created Masculine Development to share his passion with men who want success in all areas.