So you want to improve your life? Well yeah, so does everyone else.
Everyone wants to have the perfect job. They want to get paid millions doing something that they love, all the while getting crazy benefits and having months of paid vacation every year.
Everyone wants to have the perfect girl. They want some gorgeous model, who’s a great cook, super intelligent, and also super sweet and willing to stay loyal.
Everyone wants to have the perfect lifestyle. They want to be able to work from wherever they want in the world, without having to wake up early or stay out late.
Despite this common desire to improve your life, however, very few people actually do so. Here’s why.
Most people meander through life without any sort of purpose or direction. This is, fundamentally, why so few people are actually successful: they lack purpose, and they lack drive.
“Hmm, I guess I’ll take this job. It pays alright. Who knows where I’ll be in 5 years? I guess it just depends on where life takes me.”
This is the mindset of 99% of people—and it’s no coincidence that the same people aren’t able to actually improve their lives. They just take what’s given to them, rather than going out and seizing what they want.
In fact, most people don’t even know what they want in the first place!
Most people agonize over decisions and never really come to a conclusion. And because of this they never accomplish anything.
They flutter about, and let life blow them around like a leaf in the wind. This isn’t what high achievers do. Men that are successful decide what they want, and they just go after it.
If you want to live your dream life, you have to be DECISIVE. You can’t wonder what you want, or hope that things will magically work out. You can’t buy into the stupid lies that our society brainwashes us with!
You have to make a decision, and just stick with it. Figure out what it is that you want, and take massive action to bring it into your life. Ask yourself: How do you want to improve your life?
Do you want to start working out? Okay, then just decide to start working out and take action to do so. Find a good workout routine, google “gyms near me,” and go there tomorrow, and start working out!
You want to build a business? Okay, then just decide to start doing it. Research how you’re going to start it, find your customers, read some books about marketing, and just get the ball rolling.
You don’t know if you should move to LA or San Fran? Spend a few hours charting out the pros and cons of each, and then just decide which you want to move to. Just make a fucking decision and stick to it.
Bouncing back and forth between “should I do this or that?” is agonizing and it drains your energy.
If you want to live your dream life, just DECIDE how to get there, and commit 100%. Yes, if you want to improve your life, it actually is that simple. It’s not easy though.
Women don’t give a shit about looks. They’re attracted to personality characteristics that will make you successful; if you want to get the woman of your dreams, you must cultivate decisiveness.
That’s why they’re attracted to confidence—men that are more confident are more likely to succeed at life. It’s also why they’re attracted to decisiveness. Men that are more decisive are more likely to succeed at life.
When a man knows what he wants, and takes action to achieve it, women will instantly become more attracted to him.
This is also known as embodying masculine energy, or being a man in spirit. It’s being a man the sees what he wants and takes massive action to get it. This is, perhaps, the best way to improve your life. Without this drive, nothing will change.
So when a man demonstrates that he is decisive, he instantly becomes more attractive to women. This is why if you’re decisive, you can live your dream life (and in this case, get your dream girl).
Let me give you an example. A while ago I was walking through DC trying to find my way to a specific hotel. I was on the general right track, but google maps was being glitchy, so I decided to ask someone for directions. I saw a cute girl walking down the street and decided to ask her.
“HEY, YOU!” I shouted, with my finger pointing at her.
I confidently strutted right up to her; my body language clearly embodied the fact that I knew what I wanted, and I was taking action to get it. “Do you know where the X hotel is?” I asked her.
Immediately I saw her eyes grow wide and her pupils dilate. This is sometimes referred to as “anime eyes,” or “Bambi eyes,” which basically means that she’s extremely turned on.
“….Umm, yeah…I think it’s…that way,” she said after staring at me and playing with her hair for a solid 3 seconds. “Thanks!” I said, and walked off.
In retrospect I probably could’ve gotten her number or even tried to get an “insta-date” (where you have a date on the spot) right then and there. But I didn’t—and that’s the point.
The point is that she was extremely turned on, because I was 100% committed to finding this hotel. It didn’t matter what else was going on; I had made up my mind and I was sticking to it. In other words, I was decisive. Again, this is the key if you want to improve your life (whether it be women, money, health, or any other area).
I made it very clear to her that I was a man on a mission. She sensed that I was doing important things; why else would I be so committed to the path I was on? Whenever a woman can sense that you’re a man on your path, she will almost always be attracted to you.
Contrast this with how 99% of guys would’ve approached a cute girl.
“Umm, hey…uh do you know where…like, the X hotel is?” said meekly, with an almost embarrassed tone of voice, or maybe just said without very much purpose or direction. Either way—it doesn’t have the same effect that 100% decisiveness does.
Think of it this way: girls are surrounded by women who are completely indecisive nearly all of the time. They don’t know what to wear, they don’t know what to eat, they don’t know if they like some guy, and on, and on, and on. Is it any wonder that they loathe a man who’s indecisive?
I could write an entire book on how decisiveness is an attractive characteristic, but I’ll leave it at that. If you want a better sex life, learn to be decisive.
Think about it right now—if you could improve your life by getting a different job, which job would you want? Maybe to be a surgeon? Or a navy seal? A strip club manager? The owner of a massive technology firm? What do you want?
Now, ask yourself the following question: “If I was 100% decisive, and became completely committed to landing this job, how long would it take?”
If you’re being honest, the answer is “not very long.” Something magical happens when you just fucking decide on something and stick with it. JUST DECIDE, and start taking steps to get to the place that you want to be.
Decide how you can improve your life, and DO IT. Decide how to get your dream girl, how to get your dream job, and how to live your dream life, and JUST DO IT. It’s really not that complicated! It just takes some effort and focus.
Say that you want to be a blogger (like me) and want to make a living by sharing your experience and helping other people improve their lives. If you committed 100% you could do it, EASILY. It might take a few months, or a year, or several years, but you would get it done.
A while ago, before I started Masculine Development, I knew that I wanted to start a blog, but I wasn’t very decisive. I never really got around to launching it, and I came up with all sorts of excuses.
But then I decided FUCK THAT and became decisive.
I was going to start a blog, and I was going to do it now. So I started researching domain names, how to monetize a blog, hosting companies, WordPress plugins, custom themes, coding, and everything else relevant to blogging.
I started looking at other popular bloggers and what they had in common, so that I could emulate them. I started taking little steps every day towards accomplishing my goal.
Basically, I stopped being a bitch, and I JUST DECIDED that I was going to start a blog.
And what’s going on now, only a few months after I just decided to start a blog? I ‘m making a ton of money, I have a ton of email subscribers, I get more and more views every day, and I’m helping other men improve their lives. All because I just decided to take action.
When you become decisive, and take action, somehow, “magically,” you start to get closer and closer to your goals. This is the secret if you want to improve your life. Just decide how you want your life to be, and take action to get it there.
Being decisive will literally improve your life in any way you want. It will help you accomplish whatever goals you want, it will help you to get your dream girl…it will help you to do ANYTHING you set your mind to.
Do you want a yacht? Okay, then figure out how much it costs, and how you’re going to get there. Create a plan and start taking massive action to get there!
Or maybe you want to climb Mt. Everest? Okay, then figure out how you’re going to condition yourself, and start conditioning yourself. Do cardio, practice techniques to increase your lung’s efficiency, and follow your plan! Figure out how much it’ll cost to fly there, and start saving up.
It’s really not that hard. Just DECIDE what you want to do, and DO IT. Do you want to write a book? Create an outline RIGHT NOW. Do you want to get a college degree? Google “community colleges near me,” and find a schedule that works for you.
Just DECIDE how to live your dream life, and TAKE ACTION to get there! Even though it’s literally that simple, I guarantee you that 99% of men can’t do it. They will not be successful.
Maybe they’ll start creating a plan, but then they’ll get lost in the self-doubt and forget to follow through. Or maybe they’ll start taking action, but then life will get busy and they’ll forget all about the “decision” they made.
Don’t do this. Decide what you want RIGHT NOW and take action to get it. This is the only way to succeed in life.
Everyone wants to get their dream girl. Everyone wants to get their dream job. And everyone wants to live their dream life. Everyone has some idea about how they want to improve their lives, but so few people are able to actually able to pull it off.
Why? Well, it’s simple. They lack decisiveness. That’s one of the reasons why I created my eBook—the strategies discussed inside of it are meant to turn weak, excuse-making men into decisive, action-taking winners.
Without decisiveness, you will not be able to improve your life. It’s really that simple. It doesn’t matter how badly you want something, if you change your mind every 10 seconds and can’t stick to a plan, you won’t achieve it.
If you guys have any questions, comments, or concerns, feel free to shoot me a message down below. And, as always, I’ll see you guys next time around.
Jon Anthony is a dating coach, fitness expert, and self-improvement guru. He dropped out of college to start Masculine Development in 2015, and has since been self-employed, helping men across the world achieve their best lives. You can best reach him on social media, or via email for questions.
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