2018 was an interesting year for me.
Despite having massive financial success, launching two new comprehensive video courses, and nearly quadrupling my income, there was still a lot of pain.
I broke up with my girlfriend, which sucked. I also experienced numerous “ego deaths” and came face to face with my old, insecure self.
It’s always interesting looking back at the previous year, half in nostalgia, half in disappointment. But’s more important though, is how you can crush the new one.
It’s already January 5th… what have you done so far?
If you’re like most people, your answer is a resounding; “nothing.”
Why is that, though? Why is it that most people can never commit to anything?
It’s for a few reasons, but mainly, it’s that they lack resolve.
Most people say they’re going to do something, but they don’t really mean it.
“Yeah, I’ll start going to the gym…” or “Yeah I’ll start meeting more women…” often turns into laziness.
…and then, another year passes, with nothing accomplished, and nothing to really look back on.
I don’t want this for you. I want greatness for you.
So please, for my sake, and for your own sake, let’s all follow these steps to kicking ass in 2019.
Like most things in self-improvement, they seem obvious.
…and yet still, nobody does them.
What can you say you’ve learned from the past year? What have you REALLY learned?
Most people never do any form of self-analysis, and thus get stuck in loops all their lives.
How was your dating life in 2018? Did you date the girl of your dreams?
If not, then figure out WHY. Are you not meeting enough women? Are you too intimidated and afraid to even approach the right ones?
Are you attracted to toxic women? Are you yourself toxic?
These are the real questions that nobody wants to ask.
Yet, in asking questions, you will find the truth. Be sure to ask the right question, and you will get the right answer.
So instead of asking: “What did I fuck up in 2018?” ask: “What can I learn from my mistakes in 2018?”
The answers might surprise you.
When I say learn from the previous year…
I mean REALLY learn from the previous year.
Most people will come up with lessons like: “I ate too much food,” or “I didn’t take enough risks.”
This is good, but we need to go DEEPER. We need to form a razor sharp analysis.
What caused you to do these things? Why did you do them? Be specific.
If you don’t understand the cause, you can never make a true change.
What caused you to do the things you did?
Furthermore, I recommend splitting up your life into four major areas, and analyzing each one:
Take the time to do a razor sharp analysis for each of these areas, and figure out what you need to do differently for 2019 to be your best year yet.
I’m already in pretty good shape, but I still have goals.
You always must have goals, otherwise you have nowhere to go.
Generally, there’s three levels of “health” that I see:
The goal is to ultimately hit level three. Most people are still at level one.
Level one is characterized by either being frail and weak, or by being obese.
Neither is healthy.
Ideally, you want to be at least at level two.
This is where you’re jacked, and really start to turn heads.
As a guy, getting jacked will drastically improve your dating life (this is why I made my Body of an Alpha routine).
If you’re radically out of shape, either being too skinny or too fat, then make getting in shape a primary goal for 2019.
For those of you that are already in good shape however, focus on hitting “Level 3: Holistic Fitness.”
Can you run a 5k, but also overhead press your own weight?
Can you go to a yoga class, and outperform all of them, while also being as strong as a bull?
Do you regularly consume greens drinks, grass fed steak, and pastured eggs?
If not, you’ve got some work to do.
Fix these things, and 2019 will be your best year yet.
Next, is wealth.
If you aren’t earning enough money to pay rent, this should be your biggest focus of 2019.
Generally, there are 5 levels of wealth:
The first level sucks. It’s where you’re still in debt.
You’ve got student loans, credit card bills to pay, and more…
Then, there’s scarcity. It’s not ideal, but it’s still a hell of a lot better than debt.
Scarcity is where you’re barely making it by each month.
It’s where you’re struggling to pay rent, buy groceries, and afford the necessities.
Then, there’s health. This is where you’re probably making a good 6-figure income.
You’re pretty well off here. Still, there is more.
Prosperity is where you’re probably making over 7-figures. Life is pretty good.
You can buy whatever you want, whenever you want.
It’s a good place to be.
BUT—there’s another level! The level of Impact.
This is the level of Warren Buffet, Bill Gates, and the dreaded George Soros.
Whether you agree with what they’re doing, you can’t deny that their wealth gives them a HUGE level of impact.
Whether you reach this level or not, doesn’t really matter…
The most important thing is that you at least get to financial health. Without this, you have nothing.
Ah, love… I don’t just mean, “romantic” love, however.
This category encompasses all form of social interactions.
Friends, family, and significant others—they’re all lumped into this category.
For this category, you want to ask yourself: are you happy with your current relationships?
Do you feel like your friends “get you”? Are they on the same LEVEL as you are?
If not, consider finding new ones.
I know it may suck, but if people refuse to grow with you, they’re actually rejecting YOU (not the other way around).
Never ABANDON anyone… but you don’t have to spend every day with someone, if they’re not going anywhere in life.
Focus on the positive, and find what you can do to improve your relationships.
For example—are you constantly afraid of approaching women? Do you feel like you’re insecure, and just can’t land a date?
If so, my program “7 Strategies to Develop Your Masculinity” may be for you.
It teaches men that the foundation of a good relationship, is being in your masculine edge.
Enough about this, though—let’s keep moving forward.
There’s four main levels of social relationships:
The goal is to have as many loved ones as you can.
How do you move them up the ladder? Well, I talk about those strategies in my video courses.
But, the general rule is this: “Do fun things, very often with them.”
Experiencing fun, new things together, is a good way to solidify and escalate your relationship with someone.
Lastly, there’s happiness.
This isn’t just “happiness” in the sense that most people think of it.
When I talk about “happiness,” I’m talking about a deep, spiritual sense of fulfillment.
It’s the sense that you’ve really done something meaningful with your life, and that you have no regrets.
Because let me tell you…
Regrets are the WORST! They will eat you alive from the inside out.
I still have regrets to this day, that I think about.
Tons of girls who liked me when I was younger, who I could’ve asked out…
Financial opportunities that I was too afraid to seize…
Things I was to afraid to do, and risks I was too afraid to take…
Trust me, you don’t want any regrets. Regrets are the worst.
The best way to NOT have regrets, is to take massive action, and do what you want on your own time.
With that being said, happiness comes down to a few main areas:
That’s really it. It’s quite simple when you lay it down like this.
Focus on having meaningful relationships. This will be my focus for 2019.
In 2018, I stormed through dozens of different one night stands, and do you know what I learned from it?
I felt lonelier than ever.
Not that there’s anything wrong with one night stands. They’re an important part of personal evolution.
…but ultimately, they won’t fulfill you.
Too many people think I preach this. I don’t. I never have.
Sleeping with lots of girls is only meant to be a WAY TO MEET NEW WOMEN.
In other words, you sleep with 50, and maybe you end up liking 10. You date some, and then you become close to 2-3.
Maybe eventually, you decide to be exclusive to just one. But that ONE was chosen out of DOZENS, which actually means something.
If you’re not choosing your friends, your family, and your lovers from a state of ABUNDANCE, than how do you know you even like them?
Meaningful work comes next…
Do something you find meaning in.
I don’t care what it is. Just find something you enjoy.
Maybe you’ve always wanted to be a world class chef. Good. Follow your bliss.
Do you want to just use money as a means to an end?
It’s possible, but you’ll always need some form of “work” to substitute.
For me, trading cryptocurrencies was a great “means to an end.”
The money I made from the past several years of trading was immense. It allowed me to focus on what I actually enjoy doing.
For me, “Masculine Development” isn’t really work. It feels more like play sometimes, in fact.
I enjoy doing it. I enjoy writing. I enjoy coaching. I enjoy helping people.
This isn’t even “work” really, although technically it is.
Find something you enjoy, that nobody can take away from you, and follow that motherfucker to the end of the rainbow.
“Follow Your Bliss.” -Joseph Campbell
While it may seem obvious, good health is necessary to happiness.
It’s pretty hard to be happy when your body is wasting away from cancer.
Of course, some people would argue with me.
…and to be fair, they might have a point.
Sure, you can reach a point of “zen enlightenment” once you accept the fact that you will die.
But it’s still a lot fucking better to just be in really good shape.
Wouldn’t you agree?
Nobody enjoys aging. Nobody enjoys wasting away. Nobody enjoys dying.
So do everything you can to preserve your life force.
Run. Do cardio. HIIT works great. So does swimming.
Lift weights. Preserve your muscle.
Eat healthy. Drink coffee and tea for antioxidants.
It’s not that hard. Just take action.
Another absolutely critical part of killing 2019, is to have mentors.
I cannot emphasize this enough…
Having the right person to teach you can literally be the difference between night and day.
Imagine trying to learn how to speak English by yourself.
Could you do it? Probably. But how hard would it be?
Pretty fucking hard.
Instead, what did you do? You learned from your parents.
You learned from MENTORS… and because of that, it came naturally and easily.
The same applies to everything else.
Dating, fitness, wealth…
If you don’t find someone to LEARN FROM, you are stunting your progress by 10x.
I’m always learning. Even though I consider myself pretty successful, I have so far to go.
You have no idea…
There’s so many things I want to accomplish in 2019. I’m going hard this year, to the likes of which you’ve never seen.
The only question is…are you?
Are we going to bump into each other at the club?
Will I end up seeing you at Warwick, in LA?
Will you bump into me at the gym?
Or will you be at home, binge-watching Netflix on a Friday night, like a little bitch?
It’s your choice.
Jon Anthony is a dating coach, fitness expert, and self-improvement guru. He dropped out of college to start Masculine Development in 2015, and has since been self-employed, helping men across the world achieve their best lives. You can best reach him on social media, or via email for questions.