“Oh god,” I thought. “You better not mess this up, Jon.” A gorgeous, dirty blonde girl of 18 was on my bed, with her ass up in the air. “Fuck me, daddy!” she begged.
I stuck my dick inside of her, and she moaned: “Oh god, put it all the way in!” As I shoved my dick inside of her, I felt that familiar feeling of being on the edge of cumming. “FUCK not yet! It’s only been like 20 seconds,” I thought. “FUCK! Nonononoonooooo!!! fuck fuck FUCK.” I came.
“Did you cum already?” she said with disappointment.
The shame was absolutely unbearable. It was at that moment that I made up my mind. I was determined to figure out how I could last longer in bed.
Due to severe social anxiety, I was always extremely nervous when it came to having sex. It didn’t matter how attractive she was. It didn’t matter if I’d been drinking. It didn’t even matter if I used numbing condoms.
Literally NOTHING mattered. I could not for the life of me figure out how to last longer in bed.
I couldn’t even last a minute. It was one of the biggest problems that I ever faced as a young man—and the worst part was that I tried literally EVERYTHING. Even when I was drunk, I couldn’t last any longer than like three minutes.
I was so disappointed, because I worked out and was in really good shape. Physically I had the ability to fuck for hours, but because I kept busting my loads too soon, I couldn’t even fuck for a minute. I wanted to give her amazing sex, so that she’d keep coming back; but more often than not, it was the last (and first) time that I ever saw her.
I had good game, and could pull girls with ease, but after fucking, they never wanted to come back for more (and could I blame them?). It was at this point that I decided to make a change. I was DETERMINED to figure out how to last longer in bed. I was 100% focused on solving this problem that I had.
It was causing me too much pain and suffering to ignore. I realized that my love life would NEVER be where I wanted it to be if I didn’t figure out how to last longer in bed.
I cannot emphasize how excruciatingly painful this experience was. It made me just want to give up; I mean what was the point of learning game, working out, working on your style, and doing all of these other things to get girls, if you couldn’t even fuck them for longer than a minute?
I must have tried so many different things that didn’t work. It was unreal. At first I tried those stupid “think about baseball,” tips that you read about on mainstream dating advice websites. Yeah, that shit didn’t make me last longer in bed at all.
Then I tried taking deep breaths (another mainstream piece of advice that’s absolute garbage)—didn’t work. Then I read somewhere that caffeine makes you last longer in bed, so I tried drinking like 8 cups of coffee before I had a girl over. That definitely didn’t work.
And those condoms that claim to numb your dick? All that did was make my dick sting like it was on fire, for like 30 minutes. I do not recommend that to anyone trying to last longer in bed (it didn’t even do that for me).
But, everything changed once I discovered a little known plant native to Southeast Asia.
(I know that sounds so cheesy, but it’s actually true).
Like most guys, you probably found this article by googling “How to last longer in bed.” That’s what I did, too. Except I didn’t find this article…I found something else. A bunch of guys were talking about this weird plant called kratom on one of the online forums that I used to frequent. They were saying that it helped them last WAY longer in bed.
“This could be the answer that I’m looking for,” I thought. So I put on my big boy pants and decided to order a starter pack with different strains that you can sample for their different effects. It came in the mail one day, but it wasn’t until a couple of days later that I got a chance to use it.
“I’m coming over soon!” she said. Perfect. Now was the time to see if it worked. I used 4 grams of a medium strain (more on strains later) about half an hour before she came over.
I then proceeded to fuck her for 45 minutes straight.
From then on, I’ve used kratom to help combat premature ejaculation. It always works like a charm, and it’s never disappointed me.
I want to be very clear—kratom was not the only factor that helped me to cure my premature ejaculation. Kratom was a massive aid in helping me cure my premature ejaculation, but it certainly wasn’t the entirety of the solution.
In reality, there were a few things that all came into play:
In my opinion, these are the 5 things that will help you cure your premature ejaculation the most, in order of effectiveness. For optimal results, I recommend that you do all 5—at the very least do kratom and kegels, but if you want the most benefit, do everything.
As I said before, kratom was not the only thing that helped me cure my premature ejaculation. But, that being said, it played a MASSIVE role. Kratom was what got the ball rolling.
Because I could now last 45 minutes when I used kratom, I started to develop less and less anxiety. I wasn’t worried about cumming after 30 seconds, which allowed me to loosen up more—and once I could last for nearly an hour in bed, I started to get WAY more experience, which helped me develop the ability to cum on command. Kratom was the catalyst in all of this.
For ANY GUY trying to figure out how to last longer in bed, I recommend that you begin with a kratom starter pack. Kratom will basically get the ball rolling, and create a cascade of positive effects for your sex life. Sometimes all we need is a little confidence to move the needle in a big way. Kratom will give you that confidence.
Ask yourself this: if you had a little baggie of green powder in your drawer, that you could, at ANY time, use to make you last 45 minutes in bed, how nervous would you be about premature ejaculation?
You wouldn’t be nervous at all. And that’s the point. Kratom will start to give you the confidence that you need, which will give you more experience in bed, which will in turn, help you last even longer. Eventually, you may even be able to last a long time without kratom. Personally, I can now last for 15-20 minutes without kratom; this is from doing the other 4 tips for an extensive period of time.
But when I use kratom, I can last at least 45 minutes. Even to this day I have some in my house, in the event that I’m particularly nervous about a certain girl, or something. And I don’t even just use kratom for lasting longer in bed. I use it to stay motivated, to defeat approach anxiety, and to help me get rich.
Kegels are basically a workout for the muscles in your dick; just doing kegels will help you last significantly longer in bed. You know the muscle that you use to stop peeing midstream? That’s basically a kegel. There’s all different types of kegels: reverse kegels, clench-lock kegels, rapid-fire kegels, sustained kegels, and more.
But for now, I don’t recommend paying attention to any of that stuff. As a beginner’s routine, I recommend that you do 50 one second kegels every other day. In other words, clench the muscle in your penis for one second, and then rest for one second. Do this 50 times.
Just this simple routine will help you last longer in bed by a landslide. It will take a couple of weeks to notice results, however—so don’t get discouraged if you can’t last longer in bed right away.
Because a lot of men are in a constant state of anxiety nowadays (they don’t even realize it), their pelvic floor is tight. Sitting at a computer desk for hours on end also contributes to this. A tight pelvic floor often leads to premature ejaculation, so the goal is to stretch your pelvic floor out.
Here’s a few simple stretches you can do to accomplish this goal:
I recommend doing each of these for around a minute each before bed; you can even add them into my night time routine for subconscious programming—just doing these stretches for a couple of weeks will help you last longer in bed. And it feels pretty good to stretch out your hips, as well.
Interestingly enough, meditation is extremely helpful if you’re trying to last longer in bed. It will also help you enjoy sex way more. When you learn how to meditate, you train your mind to focus entirely on all of the little nuances of the present moment. This will not only help you last longer, but it will also help you enjoy sex even more than you already do.
Meditation helps you last longer, because instead of focusing on the future, worrying about how long you’re going to last, you’re completely focused on the present moment. This is what also increases your enjoyment of sex. Rather than worrying about the future, you’re focused on all of the little sensations that are going on in the present moment: the sound of her breath, the way her boobs feel on your chest, and the smell of her skin.
Meditation has helped me last WAY longer in bed, and it’s helped me appreciate sex more.
Part of lasting longer in bed just comes from experience. But as I said before, this can be hard to get when you can only last 30 seconds and can’t keep girls coming back for more. It wasn’t until I’d fucked probably 30 or 40 girls that I started to really learn to relax and enjoy sex. Maybe you’ll be different, and accomplish it after only fucking a few, but for me it took a lot more than that.
Don’t focus on getting experience though, because you can’t really control that. I would recommend just focusing on the other four things and you’ll do just fine.
Okay—so I’ve given you a few tools that you can use to last longer in bed. But what now? Well, first things first, if you’re struggling with premature ejaculation, I would highly recommend that you check out the kratom starter pack.
Also get a scale so that you can measure out specific amounts (here’s the one I use). Okay, so now any time you have a girl over, use around 3 grams of kratom an hour or two before you’re going to have to…”perform.” You may have to play around with how much kratom you use, but once you find the right amount…it will all be worth it.
This will allow you to start lasting longer right off the bat, which will get the ball rolling.
You’ll start to get more confidence, you’ll be less anxious around girls, and you’ll get more experience. Then, once you’ve got this going for you, start implementing my kegel routine. Do 50 one-second holds every other day. Do the stretches that I recommend, as well—do each one for a minute before you go to bed.
Meditate every single day; I personally aim to meditate for 40 minutes, although it doesn’t always work out. Do all of this, and you’ll be lasting for an hour in no time.
In summary, curing premature ejaculation is a difficult task, primarily due to a lack of public knowledge. But, with the simple, actionable steps that I laid out in this article, you WILL cure your premature ejaculation and learn to last longer in bed.
I know that you may feel skeptical, because you’ve tried a bunch of other bullshit that didn’t work.
I was in the same boat, and I can empathize 100%. But I urge you to just try kratom once. I promise that you won’t regret it. The stuff has been a literal godsend for me, but be sure to use it responsibly. Don’t use kratom on a regular basis without alternating strains, and don’t use too much at once.
Using kratom in combination with my routine is recommended, but if you don’t have the time, you can still last forever in bed by using kratom. Even if you don’t want to spend the money, just doing the other 4 tips that are free will have a significant impact on your ability to last longer in bed.
If you guys have any questions, comments, or concerns, be sure to let me know—and, as always, I’ll see you next time.
Jon Anthony is a world renowned dating coach and the founder of Masculine Development, a website specifically dedicated to helping men improve their personal, dating, and financial lives. After years of training men how to attract women, build muscle, and make more money, Jon created the "7 Strategies" program to help kickstart your journey to success. Jon firmly believes that every man should have control over his own life, and he created Masculine Development to share his passion with men who want success in all areas.