Gentlemen, this is going to be the definitive guide to any newbie trying to learn game as fast as possible. I’ve thought a lot about potentially putting this in an eBook, and selling it to make some good money, but I’d honestly rather just give it out for free.
This all started months ago, actually—if you read my blog on the regular, you know I talk about periods of immersion vs. periods of maintenance. Basically the idea is that if you want to get really good at something, you have to immerse yourself in it for a period of time. But, if you don’t want to lose the skill, you have to “maintain” it and still practice it a couple times a week.
This is the definitive article for guys who want to get monster game from just a month of immersion.
I’ve been hustling and grinding my ass off for the last 6 months getting ready for an upcoming photo shoot. Consequently, I haven’t been able to go out and party that often.
I’m ashamed to admit it, but I’ve been going through somewhat of a dry spell. I’m willing to suffer through this, however, because over the last several months, my blog has exploded. I was in a period of immersion for business over the last 6 months, and gentleman, the going is about to get good.
I’m about to enter into a period of immersion for game.
I spent the last 6 months constantly writing, coding, integrating eCommerce and email auto-responder clients, responding to emails, launching my eBook, and working on the blog pretty hardcore. Now it’s time for me to have some fun.
But the other day, as I was wondering: “So how am I going to go about doing this,” I realized that I could just make it into a blog post. “But Jon—you don’t need to immerse yourself in game, you’re already good!”
Yeah, you’re partially right. The thing with game is that you can lose it. Yup, that’s right. Like any skill set, if you don’t practice it for a while, you can start to get rusty. If you don’t go out for a long period of time and get stuck in your head (you have to in order to work on business and think logically) your game is going to slowly decline.
But that’s fine. I still did enough maintenance (the occasional fuckbuddy here and there, Tinder pulls, etc.) to keep an adequate level of game. But now? Now, gentleman, it’s time to immerse myself. And I’m going to give you a step by step guide on how I’m going to do it, so that you can do it, too.
I am about to lay out a lifestyle plan that literally any one of you can follow and get MASSIVE results in just a month. You’ll overcome your approach anxiety, blow past any and all shit tests, and get killer game…in just a month.
So, let’s take an analytical approach to this. What is our goal?
Our goal is to learn game as fast as humanly possible, while also maintaining the other areas of our life. These areas include:
That’s pretty much it. We want to learn game as fast as humanly possible, while also maintaining our current level of health, fitness, and finances. If you want to completely ignore these things, that’s fine. I’m not going to argue with you on that—but me personally, I want to maintain these things. So let’s get to the plan.
Sleep is a big one. If you’re going to be going out and gaming on the regular (which you will be doing if you’re doing a period of immersion for game), you’re going to be out until 3 or 4 in the morning at least a few days a week.
This means that you’re going to be getting up around noon every day, maybe even later.
If you have a job and can’t get your shifts adjusted, I understand that. Because there’s an almost limitless number of things men could object to in this article, I’m going to assume that you already have your finances covered. If you don’t, I would like to kindly redirect you to the finance section of my blog. If you can afford to take a month off of work, or you do freelancing or blogging (like me), then that’s fine, too.
Since you’re going to be waking up very late every single day (from staying out and gaming, and often times fucking a girl until like 7AM) you’re going to need two things:
Don’t laugh. Although these things may make you look like a grandpa, they’ll prevent you from waking up at 8AM because your neighbor decided to mow his lawn or something. Trust me, I’ve been completely nocturnal before (going to bed at 6AM waking up at 5PM) and you’re going to want to block out sound and light somehow.
Alternatively, you can duct tape big black plastic bags to your windows to block out all the light, but this can oftentimes creep girls the fuck out, making them think you’re a serial killer or something. Regardless, you want to protect your sleep, because without it, you’ll be weak, lazy, mentally foggy, and just generally pathetic.
Okay, so we’ve got our sleep covered—now what?
Well, remember that our primary goal is to learn game, so we want to follow a diet that allows us to spend time at the club and out during the day meeting new girls.
In other words, we can’t be following a typical bodybuilder’s diet where you have to eat every 2 hours. There’s no way you’re going to be able to get a protein dense, healthy meal in the club, and even if you could, you shouldn’t be eating in the club—you should be gaming women.
So then what diet is best to follow? I personally recommend the Bulletproof Diet. It’s essentially a modified paleo diet where you only consume bulletproof coffee (coffee + grass fed butter + MCT oil). This may not work for everyone, but for me, it’s a godsend.
I wake up, make my bulletproof coffee which takes like 10 minutes, and then I literally don’t have to worry about eating for the next 8 0r so hours.
In addition to this, the diet is designed to cut out toxins, maximize nutrient density, and make you mentally focused all around. I will personally be following this diet for the month of August (when I plan to do my game immersion period) and I recommend that you do, too.
So there’s a couple schools of thought when it comes to this. The first is that you should do the absolute minimum in order to save time for learning game. The second is that you should do a routine that will make you look incredible, so that it makes the game easier.
Personally, I tend to prefer the second school of thought, for a few reasons:
With all of this in mind, you still don’t want to be at the gym 4 hours a day like Arnold Schwarzenegger. That’s why I recommend you do my Body of an Alpha workout routine—it’s not too time consuming, and is optimized to give you the body that women find attractive. This will be an awesome asset whether you’re a newbie or a veteran to the game.
Remember, when you’re first trying to develop charisma and meet lots of attractive women, you need to stack everything in your advantage—and looks are no exception to this rule.
One of my favorite “pre-clubbing” routines to do, is this right here:
I love doing this before I go out, because it gets me in a super good mood. The pre-workout lasts long enough to give me awesome focus when I’m at the club, plus it energizes me. The workout makes me feel relaxed and alpha as fuck afterwards, especially when I’ve got a nice bicep pump going. The sauna boosts growth hormone and makes me feel amazing—and the ice cold shower? It boosts testosterone.
All of this, combined with a gigantic hearty meal before going out, is a surefire way to feel like a boss at the club.
There’s plenty of other things that I could address in this article that are very relevant to getting girls: what to wear, what image to portray, body language, the sexiest smelling colognes, and so on. But I’m not going to do that. Why?
Which do you think would be more effective: me writing 20 different posts on EXACTLY how to look, how to dress, how to match clothes, etc.? Or you just going to the damn club and observing the men who are surrounded by girls?
Obviously the latter. The thing with me giving you a whole bunch of advice, is that it can sometimes have an inverse effect. Sometimes you can feel like you “just need a little bit more!” until you get started. Fuck that.
Get started NOW, and go learn FOR YOURSELF what actually works. This is, in my experience, the most effective way to get style. If you wear something that is unattractive or socially retarded, you’ll be able to tell by the way that people are looking at you. Don’t know what to wear? Okay—just look at whatever dude is surrounded by at least three gorgeous women, and the next day, buy what the fuck it is that he was wearing. It’s really that simple.
10 years of “theory” and “advice,” won’t teach you as much as 1 month out at the club will.
A lot of guys get stuck in this “analysis paralysis,” where they NEVER get started. They just think: “Hmm, that’s cool! Okay—so now what else do I have to learn?” And it’s so, SO easy to get stuck in this trap, because you FEEL like you’re actually making progress. But you’re not. You’re just “proactively procrastinating.”
“Oh, let me just spend the next 3 hours reading about game,” instead of ACTUALLY going out and practicing game. Sound familiar? Yeah, it sounds familiar to me, too—because I used to do it.But if you want to get MONSTER game in just a month, you HAVE TO TAKE ACTION. If you’re paralyzed by fear, and just can’t bring yourself to taking action, consider reading my previous article on that.
Okay, so this period of immersion is going to last a month. If you like, you can apply the same principles to an entire year, or maybe to just a week. It doesn’t matter. What matters is that you just take action.
Okay—so this program is going to consist of two components: day game and night game. Day game is when you hit on girls during the day. Night game is when you hit on girls during the night. “Yeah, no shit, Jon. Why are you telling me this?”
I’m telling you this, because the vibe you have to give off during the two is entirely different.
For night game, you need to be VERY assertive. You need to be commanding, confident, and a little bit obnoxious. This is because the girl is probably drunk, running around dancing, shaking her little ass off, listening to loud music, and getting hit on by like hundreds of guys. So OBVIOUSLY you need to be assertive and push your way into her reality.
This doesn’t mean to be a dummy and make her feel uncomfortable, but in general (for night game) you want to err on the side of assertiveness. For day game, however, you want to err on the side of being more laid back. Because during the day, she’s probably just out shopping or something, just the fact that you approach a girl conveys a large amount of confidence and intention. Day game is about being more laid back, chatting a bit, and getting her number or going on an “insta-date,” where you grab her hand and take her to a nearby Starbucks or something.
In short, for day game err on the side of being laid back. For night game, err on the side of assertiveness. So, with this in mind, let’s lay out a specific time frame and lifestyle for you to follow.
Again, this is the lifestyle that I’ll be following for the next month. It’s designed to be highly focused on learning game, but it still has enough “maintenance” stuff so that your life doesn’t crumble. If you want to tweak it, that’s totally cool, but here’s what I recommend doing.
Sunday, Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday:
Thursday, Friday, and Saturday:
1 month of this program will give you good game. 2 months of this program will give you great game. And 3 months? You’ll be able to pull hot girls off of the dude driving the Lamborghini, because you’re 10x more fun than he is, but how exactly do you “do” game?
The reason that you want to do day game from Sunday to Wednesday is because there aren’t that many people out clubbing on these nights. If you live in a party city like Miami, Vegas, or Ibiza, you can completely ignore this rule and just go learn night game every night. If you’re like most men, however, you’re going to have to learn day game. So how do you do this?
Aim for going to malls and highly populated, anonymous areas between the times of 4 and 9.
This is typically when girls go shopping with their friends—around noon is too early, and the girls that are out are too busy getting lunch to give a shit about you, and after nine is too late, because they’re either at the club or at home. The sweet spot for day game is between 4 and 9. You want to aim for crowded parks, malls, and shopping outlets.
There’s literally a shit ton of openers you could use to start a conversation with a girl, but she’s going to be reading your vibe more than anything else.
She wants to see if you’re laid back, confident, and comfortable. This matters a lot more than any type of routine you could use.
Don’t get me wrong—routines have their place. Specific openers and techniques have their place, but most women are more concerned about your vibe than anything else. So, with this in mind, here’s a few ways to cultivate a “good vibe”:
The most important thing to remember about day game is that it’s more important to be laid back.
Once you get in a conversation with her, say “do you want to go get coffee right now?” and grab her by the hand and start walking with her. If she resists or gets uncomfortable, then just let her be and maybe ask for her number if she’s busy now.
If you guys hit it off on the date, invite her back to your place to watch a movie or something—don’t make her feel like a slut. Always give a girl a reason to come back home with you, besides sex. If she’s not really having it, just ask for her number and say you want to get smoothies or something in the next week.
As I said before, with night game you have to be a lot more assertive, but the “vibe” aspect of game still holds true. It always holds true. Girls will be significantly easier to pull from the club than during the day, but you need both night game and day game to develop as a man.
Day game makes you more immune to social pressure and improves your conversational skills. Night game forces you to calibrate very quickly, and cultivates decisiveness and assertiveness. With night game, again, you can use virtually any opener—but remember, girls don’t really care about openers. One of my most common openers is literally just “Hey,” but just said in a really positive, happy way.
Because girls communicate more on an emotional level than men do, she’ll naturally sense the good emotions in your voice, and will want to talk to you. This is perhaps the biggest sticking point for newbies—they think it’s the WORDS you’re saying that matter, when it’s really the WAY that you’re saying them.
Remember this: When it comes to women, WHAT you say isn’t nearly as important as HOW you say it.
I talked about a concept known as baby-stepping in my article “How to Learn Game as a Newbie,” but what’s interesting is that this concept can also be applied to women.
Often times, women aren’t comfortable just leaving the club and going straight to your place, and for good reason. They want to make sure you’re not some psychopath or something; they want to get to know you better. Don’t get me wrong—still try to pull them straight from the club, but don’t be surprised if it doesn’t happen. Instead, what you need to do, is baby step the girl.
Get her used to taking little steps with you. Here is the general pattern that I follow:
Not being able to babystep a girl is literally one of the biggest reasons why most guys fail with women. Also, protip: have a “pull” restaurant.
This is basically a restaurant nearby where you live, that you always invite girls to—this makes it SO much smoother to just say “Oh hey, let’s swing by my place for an after-party. It’s like a block away.”
That’s fine. While you’re out at the club trying to pull, you should be hitting up tinder girls, and girls you met from daygame and the night before, asking them to meet up with you, either at the club, or for an “after-party.”
More often than not at least one will want to go home with you.
And even if they don’t, that’s fine—but remember: don’t give up. The longer you stay out, the more likely you are to get laid. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve been rejected for like five straight hours, then at like 3 in the morning I end up pulling some girl who’s just horny and wants to fuck, but no guys have had the balls to talk to her.
And even if this DOESN’T happen, who cares? There’s always tomorrow and the night after. Just go home, take it easy, and record your results, which brings me to my next point.
Okay, this may sound kind of weird, but if you’re serious with pickup you HAVE TO keep a pickup journal. I have an even broader term for mine, which is just “Social Journal.” I catalog everyone that I meet; girls that I hook up with, potential business partners, and everything in between, so that I can learn from the interaction and remember if they said or did anything important.
I don’t know if someone’s untrustworthy? I just look back in my journal and see if they’ve done anything untrustworthy in the past. I don’t know if a girl will flake or not? I just look at her track record. Keeping a journal will help you see your sticking points.
If, night after night, you record your results, you’ll start to notice common patterns. For example, maybe you can get girls to talk to you, but have trouble getting them to walk around with you. Maybe you can get girls home, but they never want to hang out with you afterwards. Who knows? But either way, the point is once you know what’s going wrong, you can figure out why it’s going wrong and start to change it.
Every night, record the following:
Keep in mind sometimes it’s the girl and not you; maybe she’s just in a really bad mood, but either way, there’s almost always something you contributed to create a certain reaction from her.
I do not recommend that you use alcohol. Yes, it will take away some of the anxiety, but it will make your senses numb, which makes it harder to read a woman’s body language. You won’t be able to think as clearly, and what’s worse, is it will wreak havoc on your body and mind if you’re doing this every night for the next month. Instead just use Phenibut.
Phenibut was actually in the Russian astronauts’ “emergency kit,” in case their space ship started to spiral out of control, or there was a technological malfunction or something. Why? Because it relaxes your nerves like a god damn benzo, but doesn’t dull your mind.
When I’m on phenibut, my approach anxiety is virtually non-existent.
There’s still some of it there, but it’s literally like 15% of what it was. Phenibut makes me more outgoing, extroverted, and energetic—it makes it WAY easier to socialize. I recommend using Red Monkey, which is made by Good Looking Loser’s and Victor Pride’s company, red supplements.
(Edit: Red Monkey is no longer on the market. Damn you, FDA!)
Not only does it have phenibut, which will massively calm your nerves down, but it also has 5-HTP, L-Theanine, and some other ingredients that have been proven to decrease anxiety.
Alternatively, you can also try taking Onnit’s New Mood. I’ve personally had great results with both phenibut and New Mood. To be honest, there’s trade-offs for both. New Mood isn’t as strong as Red Monkey, but can be used daily without any negative side-effects. Red Monkey, on the other hand, is much stronger than New Mood…but I don’t recommend using it daily.
In all seriousness, I take both to get the most benefits. I take 2 pills of New Mood in the morning, and 2 more in the afternoon. Then, on maybe Thursday and Saturday, I’ll take 2-4 pills of Red Monkey around 7PM so that it’ll be in full swing by around 10 or 11 (when the night is starting to warm up).
Either way, you’ll just have to experiment and see what works best for you.
If you’re struggling to pull girls with Tinder, consider downloading my guide on how to bang 5 new girls a week with Tinder (it’s been field tested by yours truly). Aside from this, I can’t think of any tips to give you guys. Just remember: it will be hard at first, but TRUST ME, it will get so much easier a lot faster than you think.
Always remember the rule of 6. It will motivate the hell out of you. If your best night now is pulling an 8, in 6 months of moderate game, or in our case, 1 month of immersion, pulling an 8 will be your average night. Really think about that. What’s your best night right now? Maybe you’re more of a newbie, so your best night is making out with a 7.
Well, you know what? After this 1 month period, THAT WILL BE YOUR AVERAGE NIGHT.
If that doesn’t motivate the hell out of you, I don’t know what will. As usual, if you guys have any questions, comments, or concerns, let me know. I hope you all experience massive success from this guide and land the girl of your dreams—and, as always, I’ll see you next time.
Jon Anthony is a dating coach, fitness expert, and self-improvement guru. He dropped out of college to start Masculine Development in 2015, and has since been self-employed, helping men across the world achieve their best lives. You can best reach him on social media, or via email for questions.