Tell me if this has ever happened to you…
You feel like you’ve been doing everything right. You’ve been hitting the gym, you’ve been working on your game, and you’ve even been making a little bit of extra money on the side.
…but for some reason, girls don’t seem to pay any attention to you. Every day, you swipe right on Tinder, hoping that they’ll swipe back. You try asking girls out in your social circle, you try improving your text game, you try EVERYTHING! But nothing seems to work.
Well I’m here to tell you, my friend, that I’ve been in this situation. I’ve been there, where girls ignore me, and where I’m pissed off and don’t know what to do about it. So if that’s where you’re at right now, then read on.
Have you ever noticed that when you’ve got a lot of stuff going on in your life, girls always end up chasing YOU? I remember when I was back in college and I started a fraternity. It wasn’t even that great at first either, but something very interesting happened almost overnight.
I went from struggling to bang girls on Tinder, to having girls hit ME up asking what I was doing. Every night I’d get girls asking me about my day, what I was up to, and trying to come hang out…even if our fraternity wasn’t throwing a party that night. Why was this? What magically happened?
I’ll tell you what happened—my priorities shifted. I was no longer solely focused on getting laid and trying to rack up as many notch counts as possible, but rather I was focused on spending time with my brothers, and building up our fraternity name.
So then, this begs the question: what do girls want? It’s actually quite simple. Girls want a man who’s not going to make them a priority. They want men who are focused on their purpose above all else, whatever that purpose may be. And although they may deny it, deep down they know it’s true.
Have you ever heard the expression “you can have your cake and eat it, too”? Well while this expression doesn’t apply to all things, it actually does apply to women. See most guys think that you’ll need to make some sort of major sacrifice to get hot girls.
You’ll need to pay a whole bunch of money on expensive dinners and flowers and chocolates, or you’ll need to spend hours and hours with them before they open up their legs for you. As it turns out though, this is actually one of the biggest mainstream myths.
Getting hot girls is as easy as 1-2-3, and contrary to popular belief, you don’t need to invest a whole bunch of time or money into them. Don’t believe me? Think about the guys who get the most women out of everyone…are they typically spending inordinate amounts of time and money on a girl?
No, of course not. They’re the bouncers and bartenders who treat girls like shit. They’re the rock stars and celebrities who barely have the time of day for a girl. They’re the players and womanizers who can barely make enough money to scrape by, but somehow have girls lining up at their door.
So what’s the secret then? How do you have your cake and eat it, too? The answer is actually pretty simple, and it’s something that you’d never think of. If girls are ignoring you—if girls are wasting your time, flaking on you, and being outright rude to you—then the answer is to simply be selfish.
Don’t double down on the time and money you’re giving them. Don’t desperately chase them with texts and calls. Don’t even bother responding to their messages. The solution is to focus so much on yourself, your finances, your health, and your success, that women become a second priority.
Rather than chasing women, let them chase you. Focus on your own shit. Build a physique so attractive to women, that they’re gaming you. Figure out a way to make so much money that you can do whatever the hell you want. Make friends with cool dudes, and spend time with them.
As much as women hate to hear this, it’s the truth. They are attracted to men who don’t put them up on a pedestal, and who put their own success first, before everything else. So funny enough, you actually can have your cake and eat it, too…and I’m going to tell you exactly how it’s done.
The first thing I advise you focus on is raising your sexual marketplace value—this is basically nerdy PUA talk for how attractive you are. Think about it—doesn’t this intuitively make sense? Why the hell would you bother chasing women, when you can just become so attractive that they’ll chase you?
…and what’s more, is that raising your SMV is a double whammy. As you make more money, get in great shape, and cultivate hobbies, you’ll not only have a better life, but you’ll also be happier. On top of all this, you will also have girls chasing you, begging to be part of your life…so what the hell isn’t to love?
Sexual Marketplace Value, according to red pill theory, comes down to game plus attractiveness:
So if girls are ignoring you, and you don’t know what to do about it, don’t sweat it. Rather than getting all upset about it, just focus on improving your attractiveness. This will bring more women into your life naturally, and from here it will be easier to learn game. Do both at the same time.
Lots of guys are angry that women ignore them, but do you know what? Getting rejected by women was the best thing that ever happened to me. No joke! Being rejected forces you to look at yourself deeply, see where your flaws are, and become a better man. You can either get better, or get bitter.
Guys often get mad because they’re “too short,” or “not handsome enough,” but funny enough this doesn’t really even matter. Sure, it won’t hurt to be tall and good looking…but did you know that there’s a very specific body type, known as the “Golden Ratio,” that will make over 89% of women desperate to fuck you?
Yep, it’s true—and I’ve got a story to prove it. Years before I ever released the Body of an Alpha Routine to the public, I decided to test it for myself. After months of hard work, perfect nutrition, and a few supplements to help along the way, it was finally time to put it all on the line.
See, I live in a college town…and it’s LOADED with hotties. So when I walked out to the pool with my shirt off, I was pretty shocked at the results. Immediately, dozens of girls started eyeing me up and down like a piece of meat, and started flirting with me.
It was pretty shocking, but it’s true. So the next time a girl ignores you, so what? Just go to the gym, put in your dues, and get JACKED as a beast. Then the next time she comes around, asking to hang out, you can tell her “no thanks, sweetheart,” because you’ve got 5 other girls way hotter than her waiting in line.
Have you ever heard the term “fuck you money?” It’s basically when you’ve got so much cash, that you can walk away from any situation and not care one bit. This should be a major goal for every single man on planet earth, ESPECIALLY if girls are ignoring you and you’re unhappy with your life.
Your boss tells you to stay late, even though he said you wouldn’t have to? “Fuck you.” Some guy starts a fight with you, gets knocked out, and then is threatening to sue? “Fuck you.” A girl hates your guts, keys your car, and then lies to the cops? “Fuck you.”
Getting enough money to do whatever the hell you want is one of the best things you can focus on right now. Think about it—how much easier would your life be if you didn’t have to go to work each day, and instead you made your OWN day? A hell of a lot better, that’s for sure.
So instead of getting mad because girls don’t get back to you, learn how to invest in cryptocurrency so you don’t miss the “Bitcoin Millionaire” boat. Build a business, sell products online, become Jordan Belfort, hell do whatever it takes—just get the “fuck you” money that you deserve.
Everyone says that women are attracted to millionaires, but funny enough it isn’t even their wealth half the time—it’s the lifestyle they lead. Think about it—what kind of lifestyle does a millionaire have? He’s probably out doing fun shit all the time, driving fast cars, and living life on the edge.
So rather than getting mad when girls ignore you, just build a lifestyle that attracts women. Do things like:
Use your wealth to fuel your lifestyle—THEN you’ve got a master recipe for success! So again, don’t get all butthurt and upset because women ignore you. Believe me, I know that there’s a million websites out there telling you it’s “not your fault,” and that “women are bitchy,” but what the hell good does that do?
Okay, so what? Your life is still the same piece of shit it was before, and now you’re just ANGRY at women. What the hell does that accomplish? NOTHING! So don’t get bitter, get better—don’t get angry that women are ignoring you, just become so damn cool and awesome that they can’t ignore you.
Every day I get emails complaining about how women are bitchy, how women ignore you, and how women only want money—but instead of indulging in the hatred, simply make the decision to get a better life. Paradoxically enough though, when you make the decision for YOURSELF, women will be even more attracted.
Go to the gym, and get a shredded physique—consider hopping on some SARM’s and other muscle-building supplements for faster progress. Start a business online, because it’s easier to do now than it ever has been before. Fill your life with fun hobbies and events that keep you busy.
In short, don’t get bitter…just get better. Trust me, you’ll thank me later. When you’re just so content and happy with your own life, and your focus is 100% on yourself and improving your very own world, women will definitely not ignore you anymore.
…and on that note, I’d like to leave you with a quote that I think is relevant. In the words of Albert Einstein, “We can’t solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them.” So don’t look for “quick fixes” and “magic tricks” to get girls…just work on your own shit.
Jon Anthony is a dating coach, fitness expert, and self-improvement guru. He dropped out of college to start Masculine Development in 2015, and has since been self-employed, helping men across the world achieve their best lives. You can best reach him on social media, or via email for questions.