Learning game as a newbie is one of the toughest things that you will ever do, but it’s also one of the most rewarding things that you will ever do. I never had “natural” game. I was never born with the ability to effortlessly attract women, like several very fortunate men are. But it doesn’t matter. You don’t have to be a natural to learn game with girls. You just have to put in the work.
In this article I will address several things that often make it difficult to learn game as a newbie, and how you can overcome them. I will also touch upon the course of action that you should be taking to learn game as a newbie.
Remember that I am speaking from experience here. Don’t worry if you suck with girls, because you CAN get better.
I recall being introduced into the PUA community when I was around the age of 16. It wasn’t until I was actually 18 or 19 that I started taking action, however. Why did I wait so long? It’s actually pretty simple: I was scared as fuck.
When you’ve never slept with a girl, it can be incredibly intimidating to walk up to a stunner in the club. I can relate to this 100%, and in fact, to this day I still get nervous. It’s just a part of a being human.
There are several things that make it difficult to learn game as a newbie, but it all really boils down to one emotion: fear.
Having the right hobbies can make it tremendously easier to get laid, for two main reasons.
First, hobbies communicate that you’re a well-rounded human being who is passionate about something.
The guitarist, competitive boxer, and amateur cyclist all have something in common: they’re human. They’re in touch with the human experience, with their passion, and with life. Women find this incredibly attractive.
Second, they grant you access to certain social circles that would previously be unavailable to you; and they sometimes catapult you up to the alpha male of the social circle.
Being involved with a certain hobby will put you around others who are also involved in that hobby. Sometimes they’ll be men, and sometimes they’ll be women. Either way, a good hobby will expand your social circle and will help you make friends and get more girls.
Anyone who’s been reading my blog for a while knows that I’ve wasted literally thousands of dollars on supplements; and supplements claiming to increase my libido, make my loads bigger, or give me a harder boner are no exception. Every company claims that they have the best natural male enhancement supplements, but very few are actually worth your time.
I also worked at a supplement store for a while, and got to try all kinds of testosterone boosters, amplifiers, increasers, and enhancers (whatever the fuck that even means).
The one lesson that I’ve carried with me to this day is that most supplements are complete garbage. Especially when it comes to sex.
Marketers know that men will shell out all kinds of money to get a bigger dick, to last longer, or to cum buckets; so they spin a bunch of medical-sounding jargon and slap a picture of some hot girl on their pill bottle and charge you $89.99 for a 30 day supply.
Don’t fall for the hype. Almost all of the supplements that I recommend here are less than $10 per month, and they work 5x better.
Human beings have two “brains,” so to speak: our logical side, and our emotional side. For women, their right brain, or intuitive/emotional side, is typically much stronger than their left brain, or logical/analytical side.
Men, on the other hand, are typically much more logical than they are emotional. This simple difference between men and women is where 99% of disagreements and arguments come from.
During an argument with a woman, men typically think that her problem is “logical,” when it’s really emotional. Men try to come up with reasons why she should think a certain way or why she’s wrong, not realizing that she doesn’t want reasons, because she doesn’t want a logical response.
She’s trying to communicate something to you on an emotional level, and if you don’t realize this, she will walk away angry or crying from an argument every single time.
What if I told you that creepiness actually has nothing to do with the way that a guy looks? What if I told you that a male model can come off as creepy, too? Would you believe me?
Probably not—most people think that creepiness has to do with the way that you look, but if you actually talk to women about this, you’ll realize that it’s much more of a “vibe,” than it is a look.
Creepiness has everything to do with you being needy. It has nothing to do with the way that you look. Here’s why:
Anyone who’s been involved in the “PUA community” recently knows about the phenomena of shit tests.
Shit tests are snide little remarks that women throw at you to test you.
Depending on how you react, she’ll either become completely disinterested with you, or she’ll take note and start to view you as an alpha male. Most guys fail these “shit tests” miserably—and they have piss poor results with women to show for it.
Once you know how to pass them, however, you’ll notice that your success rate with women will sky rocket.
“Am I an Alpha Male or a Beta Male?” Plenty of men, after being exposed to the manosphere, ask themselves this question…but it isn’t entirely accurate.
There’s a billion articles talking about “Top 10 Alpha Male Behaviors,” or “Signs You’re a Beta Male,” and I’m here to tell you it’s all bullshit.
Yeah, most of it is bullshit. Whether you’re an Alpha male or a Beta male is not determined by your behavior, but rather by the mindset from which your behavior arises.