Why do girls give you mixed signals? Well, tell me if this has happened to you. You’re flirting with a friend, and everything seems to be going great. She’s giving you sensual eye contact, playing with her hair, and maybe even overtly flirting a bit back. Then, the next day you text her. No response.
Then maybe you see her again in a week or two, and suddenly she’s flirting with you again—what gives? Women give guys mixed signals all the time, but it may not be for the reasons that you think. She’s hot, she’s cold, then she’s hot again. It can be hard to decode a woman’s mixed signals, but once you understand WHY it’s easy to understand what to do about it.
Women give mixed signals for three fundamental reasons. The first is that she’s protecting her own reputation, and doesn’t want to seem “too easy.” The second is that she’s simply using you for validation. The third, and most common in my opinion, is that she simply doesn’t know what she wants from you.
Learning to recognize the difference between these three reasons can be the difference between having sex at her place, and getting the door slammed in your face. So with that in mind, let’s get to it. Here’s the Masculine Development guide to why girls give you mixed signals…and what to do about it.
Tell me if this has ever happened to you…
You feel like you’ve been doing everything right. You’ve been hitting the gym, you’ve been working on your game, and you’ve even been making a little bit of extra money on the side.
…but for some reason, girls don’t seem to pay any attention to you. Every day, you swipe right on Tinder, hoping that they’ll swipe back. You try asking girls out in your social circle, you try improving your text game, you try EVERYTHING! But nothing seems to work.
Well I’m here to tell you, my friend, that I’ve been in this situation. I’ve been there, where girls ignore me, and where I’m pissed off and don’t know what to do about it. So if that’s where you’re at right now, then read on.
I use the terms “game” and “attraction” interchangeably, in part because there’s a lot of overlap between these two terms, but also in part for ease of writing.
Terms like “value,” or “attraction,” or “game,” or “status,” are often thrown around in the pickup community without many people fully understanding what they mean. There is a stark difference between these terms, and for the sake of clarity, it’s important that they be understood.
Again, there will be some overlap. Game is one way to add value and to improve your status, but having high status will help your game. Being more attractive can be split into the physical and non-physical components. Oh, the joys and complexities of female attraction.
Despite the constant confusion involved in semantics, I’m going to try and clarify some of these terms. Yes, they may be very similar, but for the sake of becoming self-actualized, you must understand their differences.
Guys ask me all the time how to get laid. They tell me that they can’t get laid, no matter how hard they try! This sucks, and I’m here to help.
There’s a lot of reasons why guys don’t get laid. There’s the most common reason, which is that they don’t go out—but then there’s the less common ones.
Some guys are great at building up attraction, but they can never seem to leave the bar with a girl.
Other guys are great at going home with girls, but they can never even strike up the nerve to start a conversation half the time.
However by far, the most common reason why guys don’t get laid, is that they simply don’t screen for logistics.
Little do most men know, there’s four key questions you should be asking every single girl that you try to pull, before you ever make your move…here’s what they are.
Part of game is technique, while part of game is your mindset. It’s important to approach relationships with the proper frame; primarily one of confidence, assumed attraction, and higher value.
The other part of game however, which I think is a bit over-discussed, is technique. While techniques are certainly great for getting a quick improvement in your game, they’re not really a long term solution.
They don’t fix the underlying causes of having poor game. That being said, sometimes you need a technique.
Sometimes your game is just so damn bad, and you’ve been brutally rejected so many damn times, that you need techniques to even get your foot in the door and start building attraction. These are those techniques.
I recommend you use them in conjunction with developing a strong, masculine mindset, a deep sense of self-esteem, and a high level of confidence. Let’s get to it.
I always get questions from guys that go something like this. “Hey Jon, I’m a short 5’2% Indian guy with a very thick accent,” they’ll say.
“I really want to get laid, and want to learn pickup, but it just doesn’t seem like white girls are very into me. Is it possible for me to learn pickup or am I just wasting my time?”
I’d like to settle this question once and for all, by telling you all a story about a little Indian man named Ramesh that I met in Las Vegas. Ramesh was supposedly a “hard case newbie,” who was there to learn game. He was barely even 5’2″, was a little on the chubby side, and had a very thick Indian accent.
Yet, despite his apparent shortcomings, he managed to bang a smoking hot 10 in the bathroom. She was at least 6′ tall in heels, and had a face and body that could’ve been featured in Maxim. I know this may be hard to believe for some of you, but today I’d like to explain just how Ramesh did it.
There’s a lot of benefits to learning game. From higher self-esteem to better social skills, learning game certainly has the potential to transform any man’s life for the better. Yet even so, there’s a “dark side of game,” that is often ignored.
I’ve seen some of the most incredible transformations take place, all thanks to game. Men who’ve been so afraid they couldn’t even talk to a stranger are now successful entrepreneurs, dating the girls of their dreams.
But I’ve also seen good men, GREAT men, turn into monsters. Consumed by the often sociopathic, Machiavellian nature of certain PUA circles, they spiral downward until anything and everything in their lives is a mere husk of what it once was.
This is not an exaggeration. Learning game has the potential to change your life in ways you can’t even imagine, and yet there’s an often ignored dark side that wreaks complete havoc and chaos on unsuspecting men’s lives.
Look around you in the mainstream media, and you’ll see that most men are being vilified for their sexual desires.
To be fair, some of them probably deserved it. There’s been a lot of cases regarding sexual assault lately, and while I’m aware that false accusations do occur, plenty victims having come forth are probably telling the truth.
Yet, there are so few normal, healthy males nowadays, that it almost seems as if regular male sexuality is the target of criticism. This is why I felt the need to put together a list of some of the most important life lessons I’ve learned from women in the past.
Like it or not, when a man experiences many different women, he learns. He grows, he changes, and he sees himself for who he really is. This is the side of male sexuality that the media ignores, and it’s the side of male sexuality that needs to be openly debated.
One of the questions I get asked most is something like “what do I talk about with a girl,” or “I don’t know what to say to girls.” It’s funny, because every time I see this question, I recognize the profound irony and truth to it.
How does that saying go again? That men are from Mars and women are from Venus—they speak two completely different languages, which is why so many men are left calling women crazy and so many women are left calling men dumb.
The truth of the matter is that it isn’t so much the things you talk about with a girl, but more so the way that you talk about them. Make sense? If not, keep reading…
Many men struggle with things to talk about with a girl, because they don’t understand the “magic key,” to make everything and anything interesting to women, and hell, even people. As ridiculous as this sounds, just learning this one “magic key” will help you turn any boring old conversation into something absolutely captivating.
“I can recognize someone’s footsteps and tell if it’s a man or a woman,” she said. “Men have heavier footsteps, so I can always tell if there’s a guy behind me.”
“When I hear that it’s a guy, I immediately take out my knife and unlock the blade,” she added. Needless to say this conversation hit me like a ton of bricks.
A lot of guys wonder why women are so rude to them. Questions like “Why do girls ignore me?” and “Why are girls so mean to me?” flood my inbox every day, and it’s not hard to see why.
It seems that everywhere you go, there’s some girl ready to shoot you down and leave you feeling worthless. Whether it’s at the club, at a frat party, or simply during the day—but what if I told you that the reason she’s being rude isn’t what you think it is?