“Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you.” -Matthew 7:7
I get a lot of questions that make me nauseous sometimes. They make me worry for the current state of men.
“J-Jon, I really want to date a high quality woman, but I CAN’T!” someone will ask me.
“Why not?” I ask. “Because I have X, Y, and Z excuses!” they’ll tell me. “Those aren’t excuses,” I’ll say. “They’re lies.”
Most people don’t REALLY want it. If you REALLY want something, you will find a way to get it.
Sometimes, you need to take some time off to figure out who you really are.
Other times, you need to hit the grind full force—and pull out all the stops.
A man learns many things about himself when he isn’t burdened by work. Without it, who does he become?
Most men are their jobs. They are their “khakis,” in the immortal words of Fight Club’s Chuck Palahnuik, and they are their paycheck.
This is not us.
Every day I get guys asking me how to get girls. They’ll ask me questions like “how do I get a girl interested in me,” or “what do I do when she ignores me.” I’ll get questions about health and fitness, trading cryptocurrencies, and pretty much anything and everything in between.
…and of course, I happily answer these questions. I remember what it was like not knowing how to get women interested in me. I remember what it was like being a scrawny little kid who just wanted to put on some muscle, and I remember what it was like being broke as a joke.
But there’s something that’s importance cannot be overstated—and that’s never losing sight of the “bigger picture.” See having the dating life you want, being in good physical shape, and having enough money are all great. BUT, they’re only on the lower rungs of Maslow’s Hierarchy.
They’re incredibly important, believe me—nobody realizes this more than me. When you don’t have these things, you feel terrible, and all you can focus on is getting them. But there’s something beyond this, which I call “the ultimate goal” and we must not lose sight of it.
When people hear about meditation, they usually get this image in their head of some weird monk sitting in a Buddhist monastery.
They think that meditation is something that only Buddhists do, or weird, spiritual hippies…but what if I told you that meditation is actually one of the most common habits of the successful?
Yup, that’s right. From Russell Simmons, the multi-millionaire founder of Def Jam Records, to Oprah Winfrey herself, a lot of highly successful people meditate every day.
Meditation, if you do it right, will supercharge your self-development. You’ll literally re-wire your brain to be calm, collected, and hyper-focused. Here’s how:
I believe that there’s a lot of power in emotions. They affect us in ways that modern science can’t understand.
They can motivate us, give us energy, and encourage good health…or, they can demotivate us, sap our energy, and steal our health.
Learning to master your emotions is not only essential to your success, but to living a good life in general.
When you learn to be “weirdly happy,” you’ll find that nothing can bring you down—it doesn’t matter how hard your life is, how hard it’s been, or how hard it’s going to be. When you use this one simple trick that I’m going to share with you today, you’ll find your happiness to be impregnable.
I’m back at it, guys. After a 2 month long hiatus, I’m finally ready to start writing again—and today I’ve got a pretty epic article for you.
After writing previously about the 4th energetic law of the universe, I got a ton of guys telling me how interesting they thought it was, and asking me to write more about it. So, me not being one to disappoint my followers, I’ve got another article on the energetic laws for you guys.
The 4th energetic law of the universe states that “like attracts like.” This is why when you learn to design your life around things that are positive, that give you good emotions, and that are focused on generosity and creativity, your life tends to naturally start improving all by itself. It’s also why when guys draw a bunch of negative stuff into their life (bad girlfriends, stressful jobs, etc.), their life tends to naturally start getting worse.
…and while the 4th energetic law of the universe is still crucial to understand, without understanding the 5th energetic law of the universe, you might as well be fumbling around in the dark.
If you subscribe to my newsletter, you probably saw that I’ve been taking classes with an energetic coach out in Los Angeles.
Although the idea of “energetic work” may sound like hippie nonsense to a lot of men, it’s actually one of the most powerful things that I’ve ever learned.
The reason why is because it trains you to be able to see the underlying causes that are creating your life. Most men focus on the effects—they focus on the 10% that they can see, like their relationships, their income, and their health.
The 4th law of energy, which I’m going to teach you today, will actually allow you to see the 90%. It will allow you to see the underlying causes that are CREATING your life…and it will let you change them.
Recently I’ve been reading a book called Letting Go by David Hawkins. It is an incredible, life-changing read, and I highly urge you to get yourself a copy if you’re struggling with your past. The whole concept behind the book is that human beings harbor tons of negative emotions which hold them back, one of which is fear.
Think of how many things that fear has stopped you from doing. Has fear stopped you from talking to that pretty girl? Has fear crippled you, and prevented you from seeking out a new job? Has fear stopped you from living life to the fullest?
Fear comes in many forms—fear of rejection, fear of criticism, fear of retaliation, fear of loss…but all fear has one thing in common. It all stems from one common place, and if you learn to see it for what it is, you can live life fearlessly.
In this article I would like to dissect the emotion of fear, and how to overcome it—if you’re a man who lives in anxiety, this article is for you.
It was 2 in the morning, and somehow I couldn’t fall asleep. As I lay in bed, I couldn’t stop feeling depressed.
I thought about things that I’d done wrong in the past; things that I’d fucked up big time. I realized how deeply I’d hurt some people, and I felt like a piece of shit for hurting them.
I wondered why I was even put on earth—what the fuck was I doing? I’d made so many mistakes. I felt afraid; as if I’d never get any better. It didn’t feel like anything would improve. I felt like I would just be condemned to a lifetime of depression, mediocrity, and self-loathing.
Just one day earlier, I’d received multiple emails from men thanking me for making Masculine Development. Men were thanking me, telling me that they’d lost their virginity or gotten a girlfriend after reading my advice on game. One man emailed me, telling me that he wanted me to coach him 1-on-1.
I’d made a ton of money from eBook sales that day, and to top it off, I had sex with a beautiful girl who I’d been seeing for a couple of months, before going to bed.
What the fuck happened?
I had a rather shocking experience upon reading The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle, which I later discovered was known as ego death.
This experience started when I read one little line from this book: “You are not your thoughts. You are not your mind.” Perhaps it was this line alone, or perhaps it was all of the words that led up to it, but I suddenly felt ill.
I literally felt like the room was shaking; I began to feel sick. My body ached for three days straight. I couldn’t sleep, I couldn’t eat, and I couldn’t bring myself to do anything but be still.
And yet, somehow, I was happier than I’d ever been.