Today is my birthday. As I look back on the past five years of self-development, I can’t believe how far I’ve come.
I’ve crawled my way out of the dirt. I’ve begged, borrowed, and stolen—I’ve clawed my way to success, and every single ounce of effort that I’ve exerted has been nothing, but worth it.
I would like to share some advice with the men who are currently where I was several years ago. I know that it can be very difficult to get some momentum, when you don’t have the knowledge or lifestyle that you need, so here’s my attempt at helping you out.
Sometimes just sucking it up and taking action is what’s needed, but a lot of people don’t realize that even just getting out of bed can be hard for some people. When you’re broke, alone, and miserable, it can be hard to just find the energy to improve your life.
Legend has it that before battle, the Samurai would employ a certain technique to eliminate their fears. Fear of battle meant less than perfect fighting technique, and they would not have this.
These noble Samurai would vividly imagine every possible way that they could die. They would imagine themselves being impaled through the chest, having their arms cut off and bleeding out, having their eyes gouged by arrows…
And then they would fully accept it. They would come to peace with every single possible way that they could die.
This interesting technique, paradoxically enough, allows you to fully overcome fear of what may happen to you; for, it is only through accepting fear that we can eliminate it.
A lot of guys get upset, because they aren’t growing fast enough—this was me for quite some time, and to an extent, it still is me.
How do you get health, wealth, and happiness faster? How do you get the body that you want, the girl that you want, and the life that you want, WHEN you want it?
This is a very good question, indeed. It often feels like we’re making progress, but we’re not making progress fast enough. If this is you, I can guarantee that you’re neglecting one simple principle that every man must fully integrate into his life.
When you learn to employ this very simple principle into your life, you will accomplish things far greater than you ever imagined.
Being able to effectively and efficiently accomplish your life goals is the number one determinant of your success.
It doesn’t matter how rich you are, it doesn’t matter how determined you are, and it doesn’t matter how talented you are—if you can’t set and achieve life goals, you will not be successful.
What life goals do you have? I want you to get them in your head right now. This article is going to be interactive; it’s not meant for you to sit back and passively read, and then forget about 10 minutes later.
This article is a stepping stone; do what I say and you will achieve any goal you wish.
Google “how to be more confident,” some time. Do you know what you’ll find?
Generic, bullshit advice that literally doesn’t help a single person.
“Just be yourself!” “Be positive!” “Recall a time you felt powerful!” As if any of this garbage is actually going to help you. Try telling this to some hopelessly depressed dude. Yeah, okay—just be positive. Sure thing.
Give me a break. One of the most frustrating things in my entire LIFE was the complete lack of knowledge on how to actually build confidence. I recall trying to build confidence in my own life, and I literally scoured the internet and read dozens of books claiming that they’d help me.
In fact, all they did was waste my time. But I’m not going to waste your time. I’m going to tell you the truth. Once you’re done reading this article, you’ll have a completely practical way to build self-confidence. Let’s go.
If you’ve been following my blog for any length of time, you know that there’s a ton of paradoxes in self-development that I discuss.
You have to be strong, yet you have to acknowledge your weaknesses. You have to work hard, yet you have to rest when appropriate. You have to be assertive, yet you have to let success come to you. These are all completely mind-boggling paradoxes for the self-development newbie, who can only think in a one dimensional way.
Today, however, I’d like to explain the most fundamental paradox in all of self-development: be humble, yet proud.
“How do I cure depression, Jon?” is one of the most common questions that I get asked. A lot of men are depressed nowadays, for numerous reasons. Well, lucky for you, I’ve struggled with depression, anxiety, and a ton of emotional baggage for most of my life.
A dysfunctional childhood left my psyche completely shattered and fragmented; I was constantly depressed, had horrible panic attacks, couldn’t sleep, and had no motivation to live life. I tried dozens of different ways to fix it, but most of it didn’t work.
Do you know what I’m talking about? That generic advice that you see on like WebMD or some shit, saying to “focus on the positive!” Like yeah, fucking thanks. It’s kind of hard to do that when your mood is like a black hole. I was even on a whole host of anti-depressants, sleeping pills, and other pharmaceutical drugs for a LONG time—none of them worked.
After YEARS of experimentation, however, I’ve created a very simple formula that not only helped me cure depression in myself, but that I know can also help others cure depression, too.
Most of the people in the world have very low energy levels, but everyone wants more.
More energy means you can work harder, longer, and faster. It means that you can accomplish things that you only dreamed of. Maybe you want to start a business, but just don’t have the energy.
Or maybe you’re trying to get in the habit of working out, but the energy just isn’t there. Either way, you need energy if you want to function at a high level in life.
What most people don’t realize is that energy is actually very much psychological—and there’s 3 very common “energy sappers,” that 99% of people have without even realizing it.
This list is a compilation of the very best books that I’ve ever read. These are some of the best books for men in existence. They range from books on psychology to bodybuilding to masculinity, but they’re all incredibly valuable and we can learn a lot from them.
I’m an avid reader—I try to read a book a day (keyword: try), so I’ll be periodically updating this list with quality literature. This list has already undergone 4 separate updates, and I don’t expect it to stop growing any time soon. Who knows, maybe one day it’ll hit 100 books.
If you have a suggestion, be sure to leave it in the comments section down below!
Now, without further ado, here are the best books for men of all time:
We’ve all heard it before. “Just be yourself!” Whether it’s your parents telling you that you’re fine just the way you are, or a girl telling you to just “be yourself,” every single one of us has been told this before.
And the truth is, a lot of people struggle with being themselves. But, it isn’t that simple—sometimes you want to be yourself, and sometimes you don’t. Sometimes it’s a good thing, and sometimes it’s not.
Depending on who I’m talking to, “just be yourself,” could actually be the worst advice in existence. But, if I’m talking to someone else, it could actually be the best advice in existence. Here’s why.