Many men have grappled with the concept of masculinity in their life. There are numerous lenses through which to look at it, and everyone has a slightly different opinion.
I believe, however, that masculinity essentially comes down to one, simple, basic characteristic. Whether you define masculinity on a biological and evolutionary level, like Jack Donovan, or on a spiritual level, like David Deida, it still comes down to this one basic characteristic.
This one basic characteristic has been referred to many times throughout history. The Greeks called it Thumos, the Egyptians called it Ka, and the Chinese called it Yang.
Once you learn to tap into this force of masculinity within you, you will become an unstoppable force.
Human beings have the curious ability to pass down knowledge and information via language; this is an ability that no other creature possesses.
Yet what do most men do, when offered the chance to gleam knowledge from men of the past? They completely ignore it. They’d rather spend their time watching Netflix or eating garbage food that will make them fat.
Don’t be like them. We live in an age of unprecedented access to information; all of the knowledge of the great men of the past is literally right at your finger tips. A large majority of this knowledge can be condensed into pithy quotes.
From Nietzsche to Seneca, Teddy Roosevelt to Andrew Carnegie, and Norman Mailer to Ralph Waldo Emerson, we’re going to explore some of the most masculine quotes to live by. I suggest you take them to heart.
A couple of weeks ago, I got this email, and it made me so thankful to see that I’d helped another man become his best self:
I bought your eBook exactly 45 days ago, and I’d like to thank you so much for what you’ve done. I feel like a new man—I’ve been doing everything just like you said, and I can’t believe the results I have.
As I’m writing this, my new girlfriend is lying in bed one room over. This would have never been possible without the immersion period you talked about. I actually bit the bullet and did what you said – I appreciate the insider tips on the best nights to go out in Vegas.
And my bank account? It’s gone WAY up. I’ve started my own consulting business with the confidence I got after taking Brazilian Jiu Jitsu. I train three times a week, and take Muai Thai on two of my off days.
I’ve found a mentor, too—I met him at the club, just like you said I would. Turns out he was getting drinks with some clients, and I pulled his girl from him. He thought it was funny (he was about 30 years older than me) and spat some game back. I could see he had crazy game, so we actually ignored the girl (lol) and started talking. Turns out he’s in the consulting biz (like I want to be). I’m meeting with him next Friday to iron out some of the details for my new company.
I gave up porn and masturbating, too – this shit was so hard at first man, I’m not gonna lie, but it’s been one of the best things I’ve ever done. In fact, it’s probably how I got the nerve to approach my current girlfriend.
Thank you so much Jon for everything you’ve done…words cannot express how much gratitude I have, for your blog, your eBook, and EVERYTHING.
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Thanks again, Jon.
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Masculinity is by far the most important characteristic that any man could possess.
One could spend an entire lifetime trying to define masculinity and all of its nuances, and I’m well on my way to doing so. But today I’d like to focus on something a little bit different.
Rather than talking about what masculinity is, I’d like to talk about how, without it, your life becomes a mess. When you have a lack of masculinity in your life, it doesn’t matter how hard you try to improve—you have to fix the root problem if you want to see any real improvement. And in this case, the root problem is a lack of masculinity.
What is masculinity? How do you define it?
When you’re trying to define masculinity you’re bound to encounter a number of problems. Is masculinity physical? Or is it biological? Different cultures define masculinity differently; is there some sort of objective way to define masculinity?
These are all valid questions, and I think that there’s some merit to their respective answers, but in this article, I will attempt to explain masculinity using the “Four Core Spheres of Self,” a term I’ve coined that consists of:
Written in 1895, Rudyard Kipling’s “If” is now widely regarded as a gemstone in the world of poetry. It was written in the form of masculine guidance, for his son, “John,” in which he passes down timeless wisdom by which his son should live by.
Unfortunately, many men nowadays lack this masculine guidance—whether it’s because we had absentee fathers, or because our fathers just weren’t in touch with their masculinity, most of us don’t ever get straight-shooting, no-bullshit advice on how to live life as a man.
So, today, I’ve decided to go in depth on this poem, in the hopes that we all may learn from Kipling’s masculine wisdom. Here’s my analysis of his poem, “If.”
In a previous article on The Way of Men, I presented a very practical, straight forward explanation of what it means to be a man.
Biologically, men are designed to protect the tribe from outside threats; this was their purpose for millions of years.
However, masculinity goes much deeper than man’s physical function. Masculinity is also spiritual—it’s those “Yang” characteristics that merge so well with a woman’s “Yin.”
To clarify, I am not confirming nor denying the existence of a non-physical world. When I say the word “spiritual,” I am referring to things which are greater than man, yet that he embodies and strives for; purpose, direction, and perseverance, among other things, are spiritual characteristics of man.
The goal of this article is to explain masculinity and in a deeper way. Man is more than just his physical purpose; he is also his spiritual purpose.
A lot of men struggle with what it means to be a man—and it’s hard to blame them. In an age where masculinity is crushed out of boys at a young age, where being assertive and strong are looked down upon by the masses of weak hordes, and where toxic political correctness is pushed down our throats, it’s hard for us to get in touch with our masculinity.
Our society has no coming of age rituals, it has no strong male role models, and it has no traditional gender role which men are expected to adhere to.
In other words, modern man is lost, and struggling to define himself; he is struggling to get in touch with his masculinity.
Consequently, countless philosophers and authors have written on the topic of masculinity. Some say that masculinity is having a lot of body hair. Others say it’s in how many girls you sleep with. Or maybe it’s how much you make, or how nice your car is?
None of these are true. They’re bi-products of a capitalist, consumerist society that wants men to buy the latest car, watch, or other status symbol. Here’s how to define masculinity on a primal level.