So, you can’t stop thinking about her, huh? Yeah, we’ve all been there…
As men it can be very difficult to get over a girl. Whether she was your girlfriend, a secret crush, or even a wife, getting over a girl can be VERY difficult.
But it can be done. I know how you feel. It can be hard to stop thinking about her, whoever “she” is.
If you want to get over her though, and I believe that you do, it’s absolutely CRUCIAL that you do what I’m about to tell you.
The #1 most important thing to do, when you just cant seem to get over a girl, is to go sleep with 10 other girls.
Does that sound harsh? Does it sound vulgar, blunt, and maybe even a bit cruel? Of course it does.
…but it’s 100% true. The reason you can’t stop thinking about her isn’t because she’s really that great. Unless you’re Leonardo DiCaprio, and have dated dozens of Victoria’s Secret models, I guarantee you, this so called “prize” that you’re obsessing over wasn’t that great.
The reason you can’t stop thinking about her is BECAUSE you’re in a state of scarcity. You’re “stuck” in a state of needing, wanting, and lacking.
You think you’re the only one who’s ever had this problem before? Of course not. Literally every man who’s ever walked the face of the earth has had this problem at least once, so you’re not alone. Don’t think that this problem is unique to you, because it isn’t.
Every man has been in love before, including this one—and every man has had his heart broken before, including this one. What separates the weak men from the strong men, is that the strong men know how to keep on plowing forward. So what are you going to do, my friend? It’s time to decide.
As harsh as this may sound, you need to go fuck 10 other women. Stop complaining, stop whining, and stop saying that you can’t stop thinking about her. You can, and you will.
As a man it can be difficult to “rebound.” Women go through a breakup, and they already have dozens of guys texting them trying to hook up. Men, however? We have to go out and earn that right.
As men, we’re the conquerors. We’re the alpha males; the ones who go out and get what we want. We don’t have shit handed to us. As men, we can’t just sit around and expect women to come after us (although that would be nice). We have to go out and get what we want.
In other words, we have to learn “game,” or the art of seducing women. Men are attracted to physical features, namely a woman’s face and body. They can just flaunt these things, and have hundreds of men chasing them all day long.
Women however, are attracted to personality characteristics. They want a man who’s confident. They want a man who’s decisive. They want a man who’s an alpha male. Therein lies the problem. We are not born with these traits. We must develop them.
I know that you can’t stop thinking about her, and I know that it sucks. But you must keep going onward. When you’re going through hell, keep going.
When you’ve just gone through a breakup, you will be tested as a man. Going through a breakup is a microcosm of hitting rock bottom. It tests your emotional resilience, your motivation, and your persistence. It tests you, and you either fail as a boy or come out the other side as a man.
If you can’t stop thinking about her, go fuck 10 other women, and see if you still have that problem.
I know that sounds harsh, I know it sounds blunt, and I know it’s not what you want to hear. But it’s the truth.
Get good at the following:
Any man who is a conqueror, but can’t do these things, will not have a good life. In order to have a happy, successful life, you must have all the foundations down pat. You must earn a sufficient income, you must be in good physical shape, and you must have sexual abundance. These are needs, not wants.
Get your shit together and move out. I don’t care whether you just have a mild crush, or went through the most gut-wrenching, worst breakup of your entire life. You’re a man, and the responsibility lies on you to get your shit together.
There is only one path as a man, and that is the path of self-improvement. You can’t stop thinking about her? Hit the gym like a beast. You can’t stop thinking about her? Make thousands of dollars online in passive income. You can’t stop thinking about her? Go meet other women.
The only solution to your problem is to become a better man—PERIOD. Don’t whine, don’t complain, and don’t bitch. Just get better.
Nobody cares about your sob story, nobody cares about your problems, and nobody cares about you. As a man it’s on you to get your shit together. So man up and move out.
This was shorter than most of my other articles, because there’s not much to be said. I don’t care if you just “can’t stop thinking about her.” Get your shit together and move out, soldier.
I know this isn’t what you WANT to hear, but it’s what you NEED to hear. Nobody gives two shits about your sorry ass problems in life. You either get bitter or you get better, and today it’s on you to choose.
If you’re looking for a surefire way to 10x your attractiveness to women, bypass the bullshit, and become a world-conquering alpha male, then consider checking out my “7 Strategies to Develop Your Masculinity.” I guarantee you that this “can’t stop thinking about her” bullshit will come to an end with these.
As always, let me know your thoughts down below. If you recently went through a breakup, realize that it does get better—but only if you make it better. Don’t complain, don’t whine, don’t bitch, and don’t talk shit. Just get out there and go get shit done, man. This is Jon, and I’m reporting out.
Jon Anthony is a world renowned dating coach and the founder of Masculine Development, a website specifically dedicated to helping men improve their personal, dating, and financial lives. After years of training men how to attract women, build muscle, and make more money, Jon created the "7 Strategies" program to help kickstart your journey to success. Jon firmly believes that every man should have control over his own life, and he created Masculine Development to share his passion with men who want success in all areas.