“Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you.” -Matthew 7:7
I get a lot of questions that make me nauseous sometimes. They make me worry for the current state of men.
“J-Jon, I really want to date a high quality woman, but I CAN’T!” someone will ask me.
“Why not?” I ask. “Because I have X, Y, and Z excuses!” they’ll tell me. “Those aren’t excuses,” I’ll say. “They’re lies.”
Most people don’t REALLY want it. If you REALLY want something, you will find a way to get it.
I cannot tell you how many times I have been faced with adversity in my life.
I could tell you stories that would make you shiver.
But I won’t. Do you know why?
Because nobody gives a FUCK about your excuses.
What excuses do you have? You think it’s hard to learn game?
Oh wow, you must be the first guy who’s EVER thought that. Your story is SO unique.
When you tell me that you “want” something, you don’t REALLY want it…
You just think you do. What you really WANT is whatever you have right now. Otherwise, you wouldn’t have it.
There’s a lot of wisdom in old texts. I started this article off with a quote from the Bible for that reason.
There are deep truths, which most of us seem to ignore. Truths that govern our every day lives, such as the 4th Energetic Law of the Universe.
…and what’s funny is when you just acknowledge these truths, move on, and do the best you can, the world will literally bend mountains for you.
I cannot tell you how easy my life has gotten, now that I’ve just decided to accept what is, and not resist what is.
Just acknowledge what you want, and take action to get it. This is a concept known as “Pure Intention” in Transurfing.
Figure out what you want… make a plan to get it… and take action. It’s that simple.
Funny enough, most people think that they want success… but they don’t REALLY want it.
They’re too addicted to any number of things, for example:
Ego death is the only way to truly move on, and it is what men like you and I experience when we commit ourselves to the cause.
When you simply accept what the reality is, and move on, a whole new world of possibilities will open up to you.
It’s amazing when it happens. You feel like the world is pushing wind in your sails, without you even realizing it.
There’s no reason WHY, either. You’re not “special” in any meaningful sense of the word. The reason why the world does this for you, is simply because you ARE.
You’d be amazed at how magically things fall into place when you truly SEEK and ASK, rather than just asking on a whim…
One day you’re in the gym, trying to get jacked, and you’ve plateaud. You strike up a conversation with some bodybuilder next to you, and he starts to show you the ropes whenever you guys hit the gym together.
That’s the wind in your sails.
One day you’re worrying about money, trying to brainstorm how you can make more, and you get an email from an old business associate who wants to grab coffee and chat about a new business he started.
That’s the wind in your sails.
One day you’re upset about how a certain girl doesn’t like you, and you just decide to let it go. Then, somehow magically, a girl you haven’t heard from in two months texts you out of the blue, wanting to meet up.
That’s the wind in your sails.
Ask, and you shall receive, my friends. When you accept the world for what it is, and ACT without any resistance, and you ACT without any sort of doubt, the world will line up its resources behind you, and give you everything you ever dreamt of.
Have you ever heard of “clarity of intent”? It’s an idea that’s popular in the PUA community.
In fact, I talk about it in my latest course, Alpha Evolution.
The idea is that there’s an INTENTION behind everything you do…
Some of us, don’t unleash that intention. We hide it, we mask it, we keep it clothed and hidden, because we’re ASHAMED of it.
We don’t realize that when you just act with pure, unadulterated intention, you typically get what you want.
Ever walk up to a girl, completely carefree, and just ask for her number? She’ll typically give it to you.
Why? Because she can sense you’re pure in your intention. She doesn’t feel any “creepiness” or “weirdness” from you.
If girls are often repulsed by you, it’s because there’s a “split” in your intention.
Part of you wants to sleep with her, but part of you is AFRAID of her rejecting you. This is not pure intention.
Pure intention is complete fearlessness, and complete ALPHANESS, it just is. There are no “if’s, and’s, or but’s”—there only IS.
When you just let go of your need to control things, you’ll be amazed at how it all magically falls into place.
For example, I spent HOURS recently fretting over how I’m going to structure and re-organize my business.
I was constantly angry, ashamed, worried, and depressed. I was confused, and didn’t know which way to go.
But, the craziest thing happened when I just let go of the angst…
Out of the blue, I got an email from a man who owns a YouTube channel. This channel has over 200,000 subscribers.
He wants to promote my products, and we’re going to do an incredible promotion video within the next few weeks.
I know it seems like coincidence, but…
After this type of thing happens again, and again, and again, and again…
You start to realize…
That it’s because you let go.
We’ve been told our whole lives, that we MUST hustle and struggle…
That if life isn’t HARD, we’re doing something WRONG!
But the truth is, that life was meant to be a breeze…
How does that song go? Merrily, merrily, merrily, merrily, life is but a dream.
When you simply stay present, do the best that you can with what you’ve got, and approach the world with kindness, things will all fall into place.
Of course, don’t be a fool. Arm yourself with knowledge. Be sure you aren’t taken advantage of.
But don’t constantly be on guard, in a state of fear.
Live in a state of peace, and of bliss… and only feel afraid when truly necessary.
That is how you will find your way.
Jon Anthony is a world renowned dating coach and the founder of Masculine Development, a website specifically dedicated to helping men improve their personal, dating, and financial lives. After years of training men how to attract women, build muscle, and make more money, Jon created the "7 Strategies" program to help kickstart your journey to success. Jon firmly believes that every man should have control over his own life, and he created Masculine Development to share his passion with men who want success in all areas.