There is an epidemic of overgrown boys in our society; men that are physically mature, but emotionally fragile and weak. Everywhere you look, you see the male gender acting like pathetic little girls.
You see it when a grown man makes pitiful excuses, you see it when a grown man is incredibly out of shape, and you see it when a grown man lets his life fall to shambles. You see it everywhere.
Why? Who knows. It could be that the elites are waging a war against masculinity, it could be our upbringings, and it could be all of the estrogen-mimicking chemicals in our environment. What’s most likely, is that it’s all of these things combined.
Don’t worry, though. Today I’m going to give you a little schooling in how to stop being a bitch, using good, old-fashioned, non-PC language. Let’s get to it.
This is, perhaps, one of the easiest way to tell what a man is worth. Do you think that Alexander the Great made an excuse when he couldn’t figure out how to win a battle? No. He just figured out a way to win the god damn battle.
Do you think that Arnold Schwarzenegger made excuses when he was tired and didn’t feel like going to the gym? No. He got his ass out of bed at 5 in the morning, put on his gym shorts, and went to the gym.
Or maybe you think that King Leonidas made an excuse when Sparta was at risk of being destroyed by the Persians? “Oh, woe is me! There’s too many of them, boo hoo.” FUCK NO, he gathered 300 of his toughest, most honorable men, and they fought to the death to defend their home land.
And you’re complaining because you’re too tired? Are you fucking kidding me? Just two generations ago the men were stuck in muddy trenches, in sub-freezing temperatures, fending for their lives in WWII.
And you think you’ve got it hard? Give me a fucking break, kid. This generation doesn’t know what’s hard; we have everything handed to us, and we wonder why our society is in shambles. If you want to be a man, then stop making excuses.
You want to be a millionaire? Then put in the work required to be one. Learn to create a budget, learn to create a business, and learn how to invest in the stock market. Or maybe you want to get jacked? Well then, stop making excuses, and get your ass to the gym.
Whatever it is that you want, it’s yours for the taking. Life will give you whatever it is that you want…you just have to ask for it by actually trying to get it.
So many problems could be fixed if men would just learn to stop fretting about stupid bullshit that doesn’t matter. What are some things that you’ve worried about over the past 24 hours, that literally don’t even matter that much?
Who cares what someone else thinks of you? What matters is what YOU think of you. Stop dwelling in the future and worrying about all of these things that could happen.
When a man becomes stuck in thought, he’s paralyzed by inaction, and we all know that being decisive is one of the most important characteristics of masculinity. If you can’t be decisive as a man, you’re basically a woman in a man’s body.
The next time that you’re encountering a decision, just fucking decide what it is that you need to do. Just fucking decide what you’re going to do, and take massive action to get it done. This is how winning is done, boys—just make the decision to succeed, and do it.
One great way you can cultivate a calm, present state of mind is through meditating. Meditation trains you to get rid of all those nagging, nasty, negative thoughts that sap you of your vital energy and focus. If you’re not meditating, start now.
As I’ve said before, cold showers are a phenomenal way to stop being a bitch. They boost testosterone, enhance alertness, and help you to build the discipline that you need to succeed at life.
I personally take one every single day, and on some days, I take two. Hell, I just took one in between writing #2 and #3 in this article—that’s how much I love them. Whenever I take a cold shower, I always feel invigorated, as if my masculine batteries have been recharged.
Cold showers will help you get over approach anxiety, because they train you to simply act without thinking; they train you to step into the shower, despite your nagging bitchy little mind saying “No! Don’t do it!”
And no, when I say “cold shower,” I don’t mean “somewhat chilly,” shower. I mean turn the knob all the way to the fucking right. Ice-cold, baby; as cold as you can get it to go.
“But Jon, it’s winter time! The water is really cold :(” Perfect, that’s even better. I can always feel the difference between a winter cold shower and a summer cold shower. One makes me moderately uncomfortable, and one makes me hyperventilate and shake around as my body’s bombarded by little icy droplets.
I swear, out of all the annoying habits in the world, complaining is the one that pisses me off the most. Honestly, what good does it do? What the fuck do you think is going to happen if you keep complaining? Is your Mommy going to come down from the sky and make things better?
Whenever I hear someone complain I literally want to smack them and tell them to shut the fuck up. Complaining is for whiners and cry-babies, and men aren’t either one of those things.
I honestly can’t stand to hear men complain about some of the things they whine about nowadays:
Do you have any fucking idea how hard it was for your ancestors? Just a few hundred years ago your great-great-great-great-grandfather had to run through the woods in freezing temperatures, track down a deer, kill it, and haul it all the way back to his house.
A couple thousand years before that, and the men had to die in battle stabbing each other with swords, clashing shields, and getting limbs torn off. And you’re complaining about how your boss is making you work on Saturday? Are you fucking kidding me?
Instead of complaining, just figure out an action plan to make your situation better. If your car breaks down in the middle of nowhere and it’s starting to get dark, don’t sit around and bitch: “Oh no, it’s getting dark, whatever will I do?” Go figure out a way to repair your car or get help.
If you’re not satisfied with your life, then take action to improve it. One thing that you’ll find with highly successful people (and very attractive women) is that they’re extremely turned off by people who complain.
If you complain around someone who’s a winner they’ll instantly categorize you as a loser, it’s really that simple. Why? Because winners don’t complain, they just make things happen. Only losers complain.
Do you know what type of man blames others for his problems? A man who’s too weak and pathetic to take his life into his own hands. Instead of blaming other people for your own problems, just fix them yourself.
Your boss won’t give you a raise? Okay, then either get one or change jobs. Your girlfriend is being a bitch? Okay, then either have a talk with her or find a girl who treats you better. It’s really not that hard, you just have to stop blaming others for your problems.
When a man blames other people for his own problems, it’s because he has a victim complex. I talk about this in Strategy #6.
When a man has a victim complex, he views himself as this pathetic little baby who’s too weak to change anything for himself. Don’t be like this. You’re not a victim unless you choose to be one. You’re not a bitch unless you choose to be one.
When you blame others for your problems, you immediately take the power to change things out of your own hands. When you blame your boss for not giving you a raise, he becomes the all-powerful controller over whether or not you earn more money.
In reality, you could easily choose to quit your job and go find another one, or better yet, start an online business—but you can only do these things if you stop blaming others for your problems.
Anything that you want in life can be accomplished if you just take accountability. Just fucking decide to make things a certain way, and take action to make them that way. It’s that simple, guys.
In short, don’t be a bitch. Don’t make excuses, don’t blame others for your own inadequacy, and don’t you dare over-think things.
Being a great man isn’t easy. Being a great man requires courage. It requires decisive action, it requires drive, and it requires ambition—all things that many modern men are lacking.
The fastest way to stop being a bitch, and to start being a badass, is to simply implement the advice that I gave you. In fact, why don’t you ask yourself two questions:
If you guys have any questions, comments, or concerns, let me know. And, as always, I’ll see you next time.
Jon Anthony is a dating coach, fitness expert, and self-improvement guru. He dropped out of college to start Masculine Development in 2015, and has since been self-employed, helping men across the world achieve their best lives. You can best reach him on social media, or via email for questions.