It’s incredible how few men focus on self-improvement. Most men just let their lives slip away; they become the playthings of fate, the leaf that’s blown around by circumstance. Consequently, their lives amount to nothing—their legacies amount to nothing.
That’s not for us, though. I want more than that—the whole Masculine Development TRIBE wants more than that. We want to get fucking rich. We want to date supermodels. We want to drive Lamborghinis. We want to get jacked. We want to have an impact on the world. We want to be truly fulfilled and happy.
Yet, without making yourself a better man, your life will not get better. In the words of the brilliant Jim Rohn, “Nothing changes until you do.” If you seek a better life, and you want to reach the upper echelons of success, you must first improve yourself.
Thankfully, there isn’t much competition. Most men are lazy, unmotivated, and pathetic—but you? You’re better than that. Here’s five things you can start doing right now to supercharge your masculinity and enhance your life in every way.
Far too many people refuse to take control of their own lives. “It wasn’t my fault!” they’ll say, or “I didn’t do that!” they’ll spout off. Bull. Fucking. Shit. You are accountable for your own life, because if you don’t get your shit handled, then nobody else will.
If you don’t have the kind of salary that you want, then upgrade your life. If you don’t have the dating life that you want, then upgrade your life. If you don’t have the physical health you want, then upgrade your life. Take accountability for your life, and take action to change things.
It’s funny how when you start to really improve yourself, you’ll start to notice just how delusional most other people are. I recall I was driving around with one of my friends several years ago, and we were discussing what her plans were for the future. “I guess I’ll just go wherever life takes me,” she said.
I wanted to grind the car to a screeching halt and ask her what the hell was wrong with her. Wherever life takes you? What are you a fucking leaf in the wind? You are a human being and YOU have control over your own life. You are the architect, the engineer, the captain, and the master of your own fate.
If you want something, go out and get it. First figure out what you want—what you REALLY want. Not what your parents want, not what society wants, but what YOU want. Then, make a plan on how you’re going to get it. Take massive action. You will likely fail, but you’ll make progress. Make another plan. Fail better. Repeat until you succeed.
A lot of people will argue with me on this one. A lot of people are wrong, and a lot of people have miserable lives. Jerking off to porn on the internet completely saps you of your libido, your testosterone, and your masculine drive. All successful men guard their testosterone levels like a treasure trove, because that’s what it is.
Stop watching porn. Stop masturbating. See how you feel after just two weeks—most men can’t even make it a few days. They’re completely addicted. We live in the age of instant gratification, and if you can jerk off to some hot girl in ten minutes without having to really put in any effort, then what’s the motivation to get shit done in life?
Like it or not, the drive to fuck is what pushes most men to become successful. We make money to get more women interested in us. We climb the dominance hierarchies to get more women interested in us. We create great art, very frequently, as the result of a love affair or a woman we’re obsessed over.
When you jerk off and watch porn every day, you completely sap this masculine force and energy-charged libido right out of your body. Don’t believe me? Try cutting porn and masturbation out of your life for just a few weeks, and then talk to me later.
The amount of problems that men have cured from just following this piece of advice is absolutely unreal. In fact, it’s so effective that I’ve named it one of my “7 Strategies to Develop Your Masculinity.” In just a couple of weeks men report life-changing results like more confidence, more motivation, more women attracted to them, and virtually no social anxiety.
The amount of men that drift through this life without ever truly considering their purpose is absolutely staggering. You will not be happy unless you have a greater purpose. Ever heard of the term “existential angst?” It’s pretty damn common today, and it isn’t hard to see why.
In the mid 1900’s a French philosopher by the name of Jean-Paul Sartre coined the term “Existentialism.” He noted that, after the industrial age began and societies began progressing forward, most peoples’ main source of meaning in life (religion) was thrown out the window.
I am not making a statement about religions and whether they’re true or false, or helpful or not. I’m simply saying that the days where you can sit on your ass, go to church every day, and be told your life is meaningful—those days are gone. It’s on you to find your purpose now.
Finding a cause that you can commit yourself to will make you a better man in every area of your life. Every single thing that you do will be imbued with a new type of energy, previously nonexistent. That’s what having a purpose does—it makes everything you do a little bit better, because there’s a REASON to do it better.
Friedrich Nietzsche, a German philosopher and one of the most brilliant men to ever walk the earth, said that “He who has a why can bear almost any how.” This could not be more true. When you have a purpose, you don’t care what you have to do in order to get by and achieve it—all that matters is that you have a reason for living, so you go on living.
The greatest men of all time have many things in common; one of which is that they all had a journal of some sort. Now I don’t know about you, but when great men such as Leonardo DaVinci, Thomas Edison, Aristotle, and Nikola Tesla all had something in common, I’d say it’s a pretty safe bet to do the same thing.
When you practice introspection, which is often done through journaling, you see your own flaws and weaknesses. It always amazes me at how delusional most men are; half of the time people aren’t even aware of their own strengths and weaknesses, and the other half of the time they’re only barely aware of them.
Learning to reflect on yourself teaches you humility. It teaches you where you’re going wrong in your life and it allows you to spot patterns of both success and failures. It allows you to see your vices and virtues. It allows you to see yourself for who you actually are—not for who you simply want yourself to be.
This is why I journal as a part of my morning routine and night time routine every single day. It forces me to acknowledge things that I’m succeeding at, and more importantly, why I’m succeeding at them. Likewise, it forces me to acknowledge things that I’m failing at, and more importantly, why I’m failing at them.
Without this type of self-knowledge you cannot get very far in life. You will continue to fail, and fail, and fail again, until you first understand that you’re failing. Then, you must notice the patterns of your failure, and figure out WHY you’re failing. Then, lastly, you must implement a plan to stop failing, and to start succeeding. This is only possible with introspection.
This is one of those sensitive topics that a lot of people have their own opinions on. “You don’t need money to be happy!” some will say. “Don’t be greedy like the top 1%” others will spout. While obviously you shouldn’t rely on money to become happy, it’s pretty damn important that you make tons of money.
Money can’t buy you happiness, but it can buy you experiences that can buy you happiness. It can let you go on cool trips to Hawaii and Canada and Brazil with your friends. It can allow you to take girls out to nice five star restaurants, to buy fast sports cars, to invest in the best education for your children, and to do literally whatever the fuck you want.
“B-b-but making money is bad!” says the poor little office drone. No. Making money is not bad, it’s not evil, and it’s not “greedy”—that’s just you justifying your own laziness, incompetence, and lack of ability to succeed. The fact of the matter is that making more money is a good thing. Period.
Re-program your brain to view money as a good thing. Save up a little chunk of money and start investing in Bitcoin. Instead of purchasing that ridiculously overpriced subscription to some stupid magazine, TV network, or Hulu, why don’t you buy a book instead? Invest in yourself, and invest in your life—you will be repaid 10 fold.
In the words of the immortal Henry David Thoreau, “most men live lives of quiet desperation.” Rather than taking action and improving their lives, they simply settle for what’s given to them—but this doesn’t have to be the way that it is. It may be someone else’s life, but it doesn’t have to be YOUR life.
You have the power to attain a better life, but only if you try. Nothing will get better until YOU get better, and nothing will change until YOU decide to change. There’s many ways to do this, but these are a pretty solid five ways to start.
Take accountability for your own life. Stop blaming other people for your own problems. Stop wasting your time watching porn. Find a cause greater than yourself and commit to serving it. Look at yourself deeply and be honest with yourself about your failures and your life. Make bank. Live a great life. Be awesome.
If you guys have any questions or comments feel free to leave them in the comments section down below—and, as always, I’ll see you next time.
Jon Anthony is a world renowned dating coach and the founder of Masculine Development, a website specifically dedicated to helping men improve their personal, dating, and financial lives. After years of training men how to attract women, build muscle, and make more money, Jon created the "7 Strategies" program to help kickstart your journey to success. Jon firmly believes that every man should have control over his own life, and he created Masculine Development to share his passion with men who want success in all areas.