We live in a culture that shoves lies and untruth down our throats from a young age, and unfortunately, most of us are too brainwashed to see this.
We live in an overly-effeminate society, where feelings are more important than facts, and where the cold, hard truth, is often ignored. This cannot be sustained indefinitely.
Every single man is fed these 5 dirty lies from the time that he’s born. We’re brainwashed to believe them by our society, by the media, and sometimes even by our parents.
But don’t worry. If you can learn to recognize them, you can eliminate them from your life.
The idea that “things will just work out,” is perhaps the most motivation-crushing lie in existence.
Years of hollow sentiment have led a generation of men to believe that they’ll have the perfect, most satisfying, fulfilling life, ever, and it’ll all just magically happen to them.
This is bullshit. If you want something you have to go out and get it.
Nothing “just happens.” Nothing is “meant to be.” Nothing will happen unless YOU, my friend, go out and MAKE IT HAPPEN! Too many people wander through life just expecting things to “magically fix themselves,” but they rarely do.
That amazing family that you’ve always wanted to have? You have to go out, learn how to talk to girls you don’t know, find a girl that likes you, build a relationship, and put all kinds of effort into raising it.
That yacht that you’ve always wanted? It’s not just magically going to appear in your front lawn one day. You have to earn the money to buy it. You have to start a business, network, and hustle your ass off to earn it.
If you’re not willing to take action to accomplish what you want, the fact of the matter is that it will not happen.
We live on a planet with over 7 billion people. Yes, I realize that some people are genetically gifted, but what do you think the odds are of you being in the top .001%?
The fact of the matter is that nobody is special. People only seem special after decades of hard work, honing their craft.
Sure, we all have different genetics—Einstein was gifted intellectually, Mike Tyson was gifted physically, and Jimmy Page was gifted musically. But so is everyone else. Tons of people are gifted at something.
Nobody is special. If you want something, you have to work for it.
Do you think that Einstein was just “special,” and somehow revolutionized physics one day? Or do you think that maybe he spent years and years studying physics and agonizing over equations?
Do you think that Daniel Day Lewis just became an absolutely amazing actor out of nowhere? Or do you think that maybe he spent hours and hours every day, slowly improving his acting skills?
If Einstein didn’t spend years studying physics, nobody would know his name.
The fact of the matter is that everyone is talented at something, but the only thing that makes you “special” is how much work you’re willing to put in.
A generation of men raised by their mothers, without strong male role models, leads men to idolize the women that they date.
And their bias is only confirmed by the media—everywhere you look, whether it be to mainstream dating advice or to TV shows and movies, women are portrayed as being perfect.
Every major TV sitcom portrays the husband as being a completely incompetent buffoon, and his wife as being a highly intelligent, ethereal being. Years of this brainwashing leads me to put women on a pedestal. Don’t do this.
Putting women on a pedestal is extremely unrealistic. Realize that women are just people, too.
Some women are pretty cool. Others are extremely manipulative and should be avoided at all costs.
Don’t believe that women are anything other than normal human beings—it will ruin your relationships, and ironically enough, it will actually make her unhappy, because you don’t see her for who she is.
Instead, learn how to become an alpha male—do not let a woman sway you from your path, for in doing so you rob the world of an authentic man.
Don’t view her as some perfect, infallible goddess. Realize that she’s a human being with faults, and treat her as such.
The world literally does not give a fuck about you. Sure, your friends and family members may care about you, and yes, there are people that will want to lend you a helping hand.
But the world is often a very cold, and unforgiving place. If you don’t put in the work to make your world a better place, it won’t ever become one.
It can be a great place…if you make it one. But if you sit back and expect it to care about you, it will chew you up and spit you out. If you become obsolete to your boss, you will get fired. If you make a bunch of stupid investments and lose all of your money, nobody will bail you out.
If you’re addicted to porn or drugs and ruin your marriage and lose your house, nobody will come in rushing to save you.
You need to realize that the world doesn’t owe you anything.
The only things that you get are the things that you earn. Sure, some people might be given things. Maybe you were given things. But you aren’t owed shit. That person didn’t have to give you anything. The WORLD didn’t have to give you anything.
The sooner that you realize the world doesn’t owe you shit, the sooner you can start taking decisive action, and actually earning what it is that you want.
We’re taught from a young age to believe that all people, viewpoints, ideas, and cultures are equal, but the truth is that they aren’t. In fact, they’re extremely different and all value different things.
Are you telling me that the culture of North Africa is the same as the culture of China? If you said yes, have you ever opened a fucking history book?
Are you telling me that the viewpoint that you should be a parasite, and bum off of welfare is “equal” to the viewpoint that you should be a contributing member of society?
A 12 year old boy and a 45 year old man are different, a business man and a musician are different, men and women are different, and a Kenyan man and a Vietnamese man are different.
Cultures are not equal, viewpoints are not equal, ideas are not equal, and people are not equal. Deal with it.
Some cultures are better at some things than others. Every culture has their strengths and weaknesses. The West is generally very efficient and productive, at the cost of our enjoyment. The East is generally very socialistic, at the cost of their individuality.
Not all viewpoints are equal. Some will lead to better outcomes than others—the idea that you’re a victim, will always lead to a worse life than the idea that you’re powerful. Only a fool would believe that they’re equal.
Men and women aren’t equal. Men tend to be very assertive and logical, but are typically more violent. Women tend to be more socially intelligent and intuitive, but are typically more manipulative.
Everybody and everything is different—and this is fine. We need to accept this.
When you put the lens of “everything is equal!” on, you abandon all rational thought—things are no longer evaluated based off of their merits, but rather based off of some sort of emotionally convenient metric.
When you understand that everything is different, however, a world of possibility opens up for you.
Learning to see reality for what it really is can be extremely difficult. But, if you accept and internalize this article, your life will improve by leaps and bounds.
Why? Because when you see reality for what it is, you can navigate it much more easily.
Instead of making the same old dumb mistakes again with your relationships, you can choose to accept where you went wrong, and improve.
Instead of ignoring the reasons that you failed at something, you can understand that your mindset at the time led you to failure.
Accepting reality is possibly the single biggest resistance that everybody has.
It’s in our nature to accept what makes us feels good, rather than what is. But, if you accept it for what it is, you’ll already be ahead of 99% of people.
If you guys have any questions, comments, or concerns, let me know in the comments section below. I hope you enjoyed the article.
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