Oh, boy…here we go. It’s another one of these posts. Another one of those posts where I’m going to spill my heart out and feel like a total retard (but probably help a lot of guys in the process). I’ll try my best not to sugar coat this and to really speak from the heart. Sometimes I have trouble doing that for everyone online to see.
This topic of this post will be, you guessed it, how to go out alone. There’s a ton of reasons why you may have to go out alone, and while you may be really motivated to do so, it’s not always that fun. Going out alone is probably one of the hardest things that I’ve taught myself to do, but it’s a great skill to learn.
If you’re serious about getting good with girls (sleeping with 100+) then you’l NEED to go out alone at some point. Every guy struggles with this, believe me I’ve been there, but there’s no way around it. Getting good at going out alone is crucial if you’re serious about this.
Going out alone will be hard. It will suck. You will feel weird at times, but that’s okay. Whatever it is you’re worried about, believe me, I’ve probably experienced it. Better yet, I know exactly how to avoid it, and how to kill it when you go out alone. So with no further ado, here’s the Jon Anthony field guide to going out alone.
It’s undeniable that getting a high quality girl interested in you can take a very long time. You have to meet her, chat her up, and slowly court her until she finally decides that she’s going to sexually invest in you. For some guys, this process can take years.
When you’re first starting out though, and trying to get experience with women, this isn’t necessarily a good thing. Sure, it may be good for a long term relationship, because every guy wants to marry the “good girl” (if those even exist), but for most of us we want to get laid fast.
Getting laid FAST, and I’m talking within a few hours here, fundamentally comes down to one thing: SCREENING. This is the idea that you ask girls certain questions, do certain things around them, and convey certain ideas, to “test” and see if they’re willing to sleep with you fast.
Screening women is a fundamental part of my game, and to be honest I should’ve written this article years ago. Every time I go out, I follow the advice I’m about to share with you, and it works like a charm—so with that in mind, here’s my introduction to screening.
When it comes to hitting on girls, your “opening line” is often the most important thing you say. Far too many guys go in without a plan, just saying whatever comes to mind. And while this does work if you’re a “natural,” it doesn’t work for most of us.
That’s why it’s important you familiarize yourself with the six types of openers. Once you become familiar with these, you’ll be able to chat a girl up anytime, anywhere, and in any way. Obviously it will take a lot of practice, but it’s not that hard.
In the PUA world, there are six types of openers:
…and while you certainly don’t have to memorize every single one of these types of openers, it doesn’t hurt to know a few. So with that in mind, here’s the Masculine Development guide to the six types of openers, and how to use each one depending on the situation.
Tons of guys are lost when it comes to girls. “Why are they so complicated?” they proclaim. “Why do girls always give me mixed signals?” they’ll say. Funny enough, girls actually aren’t that complicated…that is, if you know what indicators of interest to look for.
Guys are pretty upfront with their attraction. In fact, girls know whether a guy is attracted to them or not pretty much immediately. For guys however, it’s a little bit trickier—girls don’t broadcast their attraction as much as guys do.
That’s why learning to spot “IOI’s” or “Indicators of Interest” is critically important if you want to be successful with women. The best PUA’s often aren’t even successful because they’re that attractive. Instead, they’re just really good at seeing IOI’s and seizing the opportunity.
There’s dozens of IOI’s that you should eventually learn about, but as it turns out there’s actually only a few really critical IOI’s to look out for. If you spot a girl giving you any single one of these signs, the odds that she wants you are almost 100%. Here goes.
Ah, text game—the idea that you can somehow make a girl wet over text and have her back at your place faster than a New York minute. Is it true, though? Can you REALLY have a girl hooked from just sending her a few texts, or is it all a bunch of PUA-made-up nonsense?
Well, the truth is that most of you are probably screwing up your texts big time. I see it every single day…girl sends guy a text, and gets the completely wrong response. Girl doesn’t respond. Guy freaks out, and sends more texts trying to fix the situation, but it only backfires in his face even more.
Does this sound like you? Well, if it does, then you NEED to know this—there’s actually four specific types of texts that women send you. What’s more, is that depending on the type of text you receive, you may have to respond in a different way to keep the attraction from going stale.
So whether you’re a high school student trying to get his first lay, or an experienced veteran in text game living in a Manhattan suite, you need to know the “text game” that women play. Because if you don’t, you’ll be left high and dry as she’s driving over to Chad’s place, and leaving you with your dick in your hand.
Why do girls give you mixed signals? Well, tell me if this has happened to you. You’re flirting with a friend, and everything seems to be going great. She’s giving you sensual eye contact, playing with her hair, and maybe even overtly flirting a bit back. Then, the next day you text her. No response.
Then maybe you see her again in a week or two, and suddenly she’s flirting with you again—what gives? Women give guys mixed signals all the time, but it may not be for the reasons that you think. She’s hot, she’s cold, then she’s hot again. It can be hard to decode a woman’s mixed signals, but once you understand WHY it’s easy to understand what to do about it.
Women give mixed signals for three fundamental reasons. The first is that she’s protecting her own reputation, and doesn’t want to seem “too easy.” The second is that she’s simply using you for validation. The third, and most common in my opinion, is that she simply doesn’t know what she wants from you.
Learning to recognize the difference between these three reasons can be the difference between having sex at her place, and getting the door slammed in your face. So with that in mind, let’s get to it. Here’s the Masculine Development guide to why girls give you mixed signals…and what to do about it.
Tell me if this has ever happened to you…
You feel like you’ve been doing everything right. You’ve been hitting the gym, you’ve been working on your game, and you’ve even been making a little bit of extra money on the side.
…but for some reason, girls don’t seem to pay any attention to you. Every day, you swipe right on Tinder, hoping that they’ll swipe back. You try asking girls out in your social circle, you try improving your text game, you try EVERYTHING! But nothing seems to work.
Well I’m here to tell you, my friend, that I’ve been in this situation. I’ve been there, where girls ignore me, and where I’m pissed off and don’t know what to do about it. So if that’s where you’re at right now, then read on.
I use the terms “game” and “attraction” interchangeably, in part because there’s a lot of overlap between these two terms, but also in part for ease of writing.
Terms like “value,” or “attraction,” or “game,” or “status,” are often thrown around in the pickup community without many people fully understanding what they mean. There is a stark difference between these terms, and for the sake of clarity, it’s important that they be understood.
Again, there will be some overlap. Game is one way to add value and to improve your status, but having high status will help your game. Being more attractive can be split into the physical and non-physical components. Oh, the joys and complexities of female attraction.
Despite the constant confusion involved in semantics, I’m going to try and clarify some of these terms. Yes, they may be very similar, but for the sake of becoming self-actualized, you must understand their differences.
There’s a lot of reasons why guys don’t get laid. There’s the most common reason, which is that they don’t go out—but then there’s the less common ones.
Some guys are great at building up attraction, but they can never seem to leave the bar with a girl. Other guys are great at going home with girls, but they can never even strike up the nerve to start a conversation half the time.
However by far, the most common reason why guys don’t get laid, is that they simply don’t screen for logistics.
Little do most men know, there’s four key questions you should be asking every single girl that you try to pull, before you ever make your move…here’s what they are.
Part of game is technique, while part of game is your mindset. It’s important to approach relationships with the proper frame; primarily one of confidence, assumed attraction, and higher value.
The other part of game however, which I think is a bit over-discussed, is technique. While techniques are certainly great for getting a quick improvement in your game, they’re not really a long term solution. They don’t fix the underlying causes of having poor game.
That being said, sometimes you need a technique. Sometimes your game is just so damn bad, and you’ve been brutally rejected so many damn times, that you need techniques to even get your foot in the door and start building attraction. These are those techniques.
I recommend you use them in conjunction with developing a strong, masculine mindset, a deep sense of self-esteem, and a high level of confidence. Let’s get to it.