If you subscribe to my newsletter, you probably saw that I’ve been taking classes with an energetic coach out in Los Angeles.
Although the idea of “energetic work” may sound like hippie nonsense to a lot of men, it’s actually one of the most powerful things that I’ve ever learned.
The reason why is because it trains you to be able to see the underlying causes that are creating your life. Most men focus on the effects—they focus on the 10% that they can see, like their relationships, their income, and their health.
The 4th law of energy, which I’m going to teach you today, will actually allow you to see the 90%. It will allow you to see the underlying causes that are CREATING your life…and it will let you change them.
Recently I’ve been reading a book called Letting Go by David Hawkins. It is an incredible, life-changing read, and I highly urge you to get yourself a copy if you’re struggling with your past. The whole concept behind the book is that human beings harbor tons of negative emotions which hold them back, one of which is fear.
Think of how many things that fear has stopped you from doing. Has fear stopped you from talking to that pretty girl? Has fear crippled you, and prevented you from seeking out a new job? Has fear stopped you from living life to the fullest?
Fear comes in many forms—fear of rejection, fear of criticism, fear of retaliation, fear of loss…but all fear has one thing in common. It all stems from one common place, and if you learn to see it for what it is, you can live life fearlessly.
In this article I would like to dissect the emotion of fear, and how to overcome it—if you’re a man who lives in anxiety, this article is for you.
It was 2 in the morning, and somehow I couldn’t fall asleep. As I lay in bed, I couldn’t stop feeling depressed.
I thought about things that I’d done wrong in the past; things that I’d fucked up big time. I realized how deeply I’d hurt some people, and I felt like a piece of shit for hurting them.
I wondered why I was even put on earth—what the fuck was I doing? I’d made so many mistakes. I felt afraid; as if I’d never get any better. It didn’t feel like anything would improve. I felt like I would just be condemned to a lifetime of depression, mediocrity, and self-loathing.
Just one day earlier, I’d received multiple emails from men thanking me for making Masculine Development. Men were thanking me, telling me that they’d lost their virginity or gotten a girlfriend after reading my advice on game. One man emailed me, telling me that he wanted me to coach him 1-on-1.
I’d made a ton of money from eBook sales that day, and to top it off, I fucked a triple-D, round-assed blonde from behind, before going to bed.
What the fuck happened?
What’s up, guys. This is going to be my first integrated YouTube video/blog post ever. For today’s topic, I’ve chosen to talk about breaking down your ego.
I had a rather shocking experience upon reading The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle, which I later discovered was known as ego death.
This experience started when I read one little line from this book: “You are not your thoughts. You are not your mind.” Perhaps it was this line alone, or perhaps it was all of the words that led up to it, but I suddenly felt ill.
I literally felt like the room was shaking; I began to feel sick. My body ached for three days straight. I couldn’t sleep, I couldn’t eat, and I couldn’t bring myself to do anything but be still.
And yet, somehow, I was happier than I’d ever been.
What’s up, guys—recently I got a question from a reader about discovering your passion:
“…it seems I don’t have any passions at all in life… because I have been honestly trying to find passion for years now (I’m 27) but I haven’t been able to find anything. Maybe I’m just going through a depressing time in life since everything just seems dreary/dull and the more I try to find any sort of passion, the more lost and confused I get because I still can’t find anything remotely interesting to me.”
I asked him a few questions, and we went back and forth…but I decided that rather than responding to his email I would just make an article so that we can all learn from this.
If you are having trouble finding your passion, get the fuck in here. You need to read this.
As I’ve said many times before, I’m an avid reader. I try (keyword: try) to read a book a day, depending on whether or not time permits.
Recently I’ve been delving into a lot of different spiritual books, which can be quite intimidating. Some of these books grapple with intense concepts such as death, the meaning of life, the ego, finding your place in the world, and transcending your old self.
Despite their difficulty to read, spiritual books are perhaps the most rewarding books that you could ever read.
They will teach you amazing life lessons that have been passed down to us from wise sages of the past, they will help you to better understand yourself and your reality, and they will give you a deep sense of fulfillment (if you internalize them).
So, without further ado, here are my top 5 spiritual books that will make you a better man.
“Watch your thoughts, they become words;
watch your words, they become actions;
watch your actions, they become habits;
watch your habits, they become character;
watch your character, for it becomes your destiny.”
I’ll never forget the first time that I heard these words—I was a 14 year old boy, in a seminar filled with other 14 year old boys. It was my first year of high school. One of the veteran football coaches, who’d played as a linebacker in the NFL, hobbled out; his body was that of a man who’d endured a lifetime of tackles and blows, but there was a distinct sense of purpose, of will, in his walk.
He spoke these words to me and my fellow classmates, in a very serious tone of voice. At the time, I just thought it was a cool quote. It wasn’t until years later that I realized how powerful this idea really was.
A lot of guys wonder what the key to success is. Persistence? Hard work? Or maybe being decisive? Well, these things are all great, but there’s one key to success that’s even more fundamental than these.
It’s what will make persistence easy. It’s what will enable the hard work. And without it? You won’t ever be decisive. Despite the incredible impact of this one little key to success, it’s actually very simple. Do you know what it is?
It’s your ability to stay present to the moment, and to focus on the process, not on the results. In other words, it’s learning to enjoy the journey.