When I first got into the dating advice world, most of what people were talking about was known as “cold approach.”
This is the idea that you learn how to approach and seduce women that you’ve never met before. Proponents of cold approach would go to night clubs and bars, night after night, and split test different openers, routines, and methods.
…and although cold approach is incredibly valuable, and will help you add new women to your social circle, there’s something that’s even more important.
It’s called building a lifestyle that women find attractive, and it will not only improve your happiness levels, but will also magnetically draw new women into your life. Here’s how:
I just finished reading The 10x Rule by Grant Cardone, and I have to say, the book has been pretty life-changing.
Like most rules of success, the book is actually incredibly simple, almost deceptively so…but the implications are extremely powerful.
The whole premise behind the book is that there’s only one difference between success and failure…one small little difference in the way you think and act.
This difference is known as the 10x Rule, and if you want to be successful, you’d best take it to heart.
It’s 3 in the morning. Central California, 1995.
Most of the city is asleep, but one man has been glued to his computer screen for the past 12 hours.
“Aren’t you going to get some sleep?” his brother asked. “No,” the man said. “This has to be done right now.”
An hour went by, two hours went by, three hours…finally at 6 in the morning, when the sunlight cracked through the curtains, this man went to sleep.
Then, he woke up 3 hours later, and started again.
This man’s name was Elon Musk, and he’s now worth over $13 billion dollars.
What’s up, guys—this is going to be a really deep blog post on how to enhance your life using upward spirals and self-amplifying feedback loops.
I go fairly in depth in the video above, talking about things like my early life, and why the rich get richer, but I thought I’d take some time to elaborate a little bit more.
See, what you’ll often find is that success breeds more success. People who succeed in one area of life, generally tend to succeed in others.
Now, obviously this isn’t always the case—there’s plenty of financially rich businessmen with emotionally poor lives, but in general, success tends to breed success. Here’s why.
I just got out of a three day resting period. No working out, no following a strict diet, no writing articles (I had a couple written in advance), no nothing. It felt nice to take some time off for once.
Most self-development coaches focus on why you need to work more. And they’re right.
Most people are lazy as shit. Most people sit around and watch Netflix for 3 hours a day, don’t ever push themselves, and live a pretty pathetic life in general. But, as I’ve said before, there’s a lot of paradoxical advice when it comes to self-development. Telling an average person to rest more would simply remove all productivity from his life, because he has next to none.
But if somebody’s a fucking conqueror, it takes its toll—you need to rest since you’re operating at 100% of your peak capacity for long periods of time.
A night time routine, just like a morning routine, is one of the most essential components of any man’s day. Together, a morning routine and a night time routine serve as the bookends of a successful life.
Getting into a proper routine is one of the very first steps that a man must take if he wishes to become an intermediate at self-development. These routines can later be abandoned once a man is sufficiently focused, at ease, and successful, but it must be desperately held onto until then.
This is the night time routine that I follow (not always, but more on this later) and it has given me an enormous amount of focus, drive, energy, and wisdom, and with all due respect to others, this routine is probably 10x better than anything I’ve ever seen.
Follow it for 1 month and you will feel like a fucking badass. You’ll be more confident, assertive, decisive, and you’ll have way more energy.
“The things that you own end up owning you. It’s only after you lose everything that you’re free to do anything.” -Chuck Palahniuk
One of the largest problems with Western culture, is its rampant endorsement of consumerism. “Buy this! You’ll feel better,” says the man trying to sell you designer clothes. “Buy this! You’ll get all the girls,” says the man trying to sell you a Rolex. “Buy this! You need to be better than your neighbor,” says the Mercedes-Benz salesman.
Despite the fact that you don’t need money to get girls, and that nobody gives a shit what car you drive, advertisers still have us running along our little hamster wheels, desperate for validation and approval from others.
This is the root of consumerism: a lack of internal satisfaction.
When you aren’t satisfied within yourself, you buy things to cover it up. And that makes you a great consumer.
What people often don’t understand is that success isn’t due to luck. It isn’t due to your connections, it isn’t due to having wealthy parents, and it sure isn’t due to following the well trodden path.
Success is a mindset. Once you learn to adapt a certain mindset, success will come naturally.
I guarantee that if you took Elon Musk, Bill Gates, 50 Cent, or any successful, self-made entrepreneur, and put them into the middle of some poverty-stricken ghetto, within a decade they would be millionaires, if not billionaires again.
Why is this? It’s because they have the “millionaire mindset,” so to speak. They know the principles that lead to success, which I’m going to talk about today.
When you look at someone like Elon Musk, Arnold Schwarzenegger, or Bill Gates, it’s easy to be intimated. It’s easy to think that they were just born with some sort of supernatural gift that none of us have.
But the truth is, that every single one of us has just as much potential as they do—we just aren’t taught how to cultivate it. The school system and our parents fail us. They don’t teach us the secrets to success.
The secret to cultivating your dream life, lies within a very simple concept known as the slight edge.
Becoming more productive is actually incredibly simple. You don’t have to increase your brain power or do anything too difficult, you just have to shift the way that you approach tasks and goals.
Unfortunately, however, there’s a ton of bullshit advice out there when it comes to scheduling, and it’s hard to know what works.
Trust me—I’ve tried all of it, and most of it doesn’t work, but there’s a few gems that I’m going to share with you today. If you properly implement this advice into your life, I guarantee that you will be more productive, happier, and have a much more fulfilling life.