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How to Live Your Dream Life (The Bitter Truth)
So you want to live your dream life? Well yeah, so does everyone else.
Everyone wants to have the perfect job.
Everyone wants to have the perfect girl.
Everyone wants to have the perfect lifestyle.
But very few people do. Why?
It’s Simple. They Aren’t Decisive.
Most people meander through life without any sort of purpose or direction.
“Hmm, I guess I’ll take this job. It pays alright. Who knows where I’ll be in 5 years? I guess it just depends on where life takes me.”
This is the mindset of 99% of people – and it’s no coincidence that the same people aren’t able to live their dream life.
Most people have no clue what they want.
“Should I ask that girl out? Yes! Wait – I’m afraid, no! But she’s cute – yes? No?”
“Should I go for that new job promotion? Yeah, it’d mean more money! But what if I don’t get it? I don’t want to get rejected…”
“Maybe I should move to Las Vegas – it’d be cool, there. Oh, but I’m not sure if I’d find employment. Hmm…”
Most people agonize over decisions and never really come to a conclusion. And because of this they never accomplish anything.
Be Decisive
If you want to live your dream life, you have to be DECISIVE.
Just fucking decide.
Make a decision, and stick with it.
You want to start working out? Then just decide to start working out and take action to do so.
You want to build a business? Then just decide to start doing it.
You don’t know if you should move to LA or San Fran? Just make a fucking decision and do it.
Bouncing back and forth between “should I do this or that?” is agonizing and it drains your energy.
If you want to live your dream life, just DECIDE how to get there, and commit 100%.
Women Like Decisive Men
Women are attracted to personality characteristics that will make you successful.
That’s why they’re attracted to confidence – men that are more confident are more likely to succeed at life.
That’s also why they’re attracted to decisiveness – men that are more decisive are more likely to succeed at life.
When a man knows what he wants, and takes action to achieve it, women will instantly become attracted to him.
This is also known as embodying masculine energy, or being a man in spirit.
So when a man demonstrates that he is decisive, he instantly becomes more attractive to women. This is why if you’re decisive, you can live your dream life (and in this case, get your dream girl).
Let me give you an example.
A while ago I was walking through DC trying to find my way to a specific hotel.
I was on the general right track, but google maps was being glitchy, so I decided to ask someone for directions.
I saw a cute girl walking down the street and decided to ask her.
“HEY, YOU!” I shouted, with my finger pointing at her.
I confidently strutted right up to her; my body language clearly embodied the fact that I knew what I wanted, and I was taking action to get it.
“Do you know where the X hotel is?” I asked her.
Immediately I saw her eyes grow wide and her pupils dilate. This is sometimes referred to as “anime eyes,” or “Bambi eyes.”
It means that she’s extremely turned on.
“….Umm, yeah…I think it’s…that way,” she said after staring at me and playing with her hair for a solid 3 seconds.
“Thanks!” I said, and walked off.
In retrospect I probably could’ve gotten her number or even tried to get an “insta-date” (where you have a date on the spot) right then and there.
But I didn’t – and that’s the point.
The point is that she was extremely turned on, because I was 100% committed to finding this hotel. It didn’t matter what else was going on; I had made up my mind and I was sticking to it.
In other words, I was decisive. Again, this is the key if you want to live your dream.
I made it very clear that I was a man on a mission. She sensed that I was doing important things; why else would I be so committed to the path I was on?
Contrast this with how 99% of guys would’ve approached a cute girl.
“Umm, hey…uh do you know where…like, the X hotel is?” said meekly, with an almost embarrassed tone of voice.
Or maybe just said without very much purpose or direction.
Either way – it doesn’t have the same effect that 100% decisiveness does.
Think of it this way.
Girls are surrounded by women who are completely indecisive nearly all of the time. They don’t know what to wear, they don’t know what to eat, they don’t know if they like some guy, and on, and on, and on.
Is it any wonder that they loathe a man who’s indecisive?
I could write an entire book on how decisiveness is an attractive characteristic, but I’ll leave it at that.
Decisiveness Will Land You Your Dream Job
Think about it right now – if you could live your dream life, and have your dream job, what would it be?
Maybe to be a surgeon? Or a navy seal? A strip club manager? The owner of a massive technology firm?
What do you want?
Now, ask yourself the following question: “If I was 100% decisive, and became completely committed to landing this job, how long would it take?”
If you’re being honest, the answer is “not very long.”
Something magical happens when you just fucking decide on something and stick with it.
JUST DECIDE.
Decide how you can live your dream life, and DO IT. Decide how to get your dream girl, how to get your dream job, and how to live your dream life, and JUST DO IT.
Say that you want to be a blogger (like me) and make a living by sharing your experience and helping other people improve.
If you committed 100% you could do it, EASILY.
It might take a few months, or a year, or several years, but you would get it done.
A while ago, before I started Masculine Development, I knew that I wanted to start a blog, but I wasn’t very decisive.
I never really got around to launching it, and I came up with all sorts of excuses.
But then I decided FUCK THAT and became decisive.
I was going to start a blog, and I was going to do it now.
So I started researching domain names, how to monetize a blog, hosting companies, WordPress plugins, custom themes, coding, and everything else relevant to blogging.
I started looking at other popular bloggers and what they had in common, so that I could emulate them.
I started taking little steps every day towards accomplishing my goal.
Basically, I stopped being a bitch, and I JUST DECIDED that I was going to start a blog.
And what’s going on now, only a few months after I just decided to start a blog?
I’m writing an eBook, I have a ton of email subscribers, I get more and more views every day, I’m slowly making more and more money, and I’m helping more and more people every day.
When you become decisive, and take action, somehow, “magically,” you start to get closer and closer to your goals.
This is the secret if you want to live your dream life. Just decide how you want your life to be, and take action to get it there.
Being Decisive Will Get You WHATEVER You Want
Being decisive will literally let you live your dream life. It will let you accomplish whatever goals you want, it will help you to get your dream girl…it will help you to do ANYTHING you set your mind to.
Do you want a yacht?
Okay, then figure out how much it costs, and how you’re going to get there. Create a plan.
Do you want to climb Mt. Everest?
Okay, then figure out how you’re going to condition yourself, and start conditioning yourself.
Figure out how much it’ll cost to fly there, and start saving up.
It’s really not that hard. Just DECIDE what you want to do, and DO IT.
Do you want to write a book? Create an outline RIGHT NOW.
Do you want to get a college degree? Google “community colleges near me,” and find a schedule that works for you.
JUST. FUCKING. DECIDE.
Just DECIDE how to live your dream life, and TAKE ACTION to get there!
Even though it’s literally that simple, I guarantee you that 99% of men can’t do it. They will not be successful.
Maybe they’ll start creating a plan, but then they’ll get lost in the self-doubt and forget to follow through.
Or maybe they’ll start taking action, but then life will get busy and they’ll forget all about the “decision” they made.
Don’t do this. Decide what you want RIGHT NOW and take action to get it.
This is the only way to succeed in life.
Summary
Everyone wants to get their dream girl. Everyone wants to get their dream job. And everyone wants to live their dream life.
Yet so few men are able to accomplish these things, because they lack a simple characteristic necessary to success. They lack decisiveness.
If you want to live your dream, work on cultivating decisiveness. Just decide how to live your dream, and take massive action to get there.
If you have any questions, comments, or concerns, leave me a message in the comments section below. I hope you guys enjoyed the article.
Until next time,
-Jon
About the Author Jon Anthony
After learning to successfully trade the market, build a six pack, start a social circle from scratch, and increase his IQ by 15 points, Jon Anthony has decided to teach others how they can, too. He plans to move to Las Vegas next year to invest in real estate and live it up.
