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Defining Masculinity on a Spiritual Level
In “Defining Masculinity on a Primal Level” I presented a very practical, straight forward explanation of what it means to be a man.
However, masculinity goes much deeper than man’s physical function (to protect the tribe).
Masculinity is also spiritual – to be a man in the physical sense is not enough. You must also be a man in spirit.
Now, please do not misunderstand me. I am not confirming nor denying the existence of a non-physical world. When I say the word “spiritual,” I am referring to things which are greater than man, yet that he embodies and strives for; purpose, direction, and perseverance, among other things, are spiritual characteristics of man.
The goal of this article is to explain masculinity in a deeper way. Man is more than just his physical purpose; he is also his spiritual purpose.
Taoism: The Way
Taoism is a very interesting philosophy, in that it does not claim to have a way such as Christianity, Buddhism, or Hinduism does, but rather that it is the way.
This way cannot be understood conceptually – it cannot be heard, seen, or tasted. It does not exist in time.
The way is simply to be. There is no way, and yet, paradoxically, there is.
The way is different for every man, woman, and child – there is no… “objective” way. The way simply means to be, or to practice your dharma (your role in the universe).
One of the fundamental beliefs of Taoism is that the ideas of good/evil, light/dark, and other dichotomies are constructions of the mind.
In other words, light cannot exist without darkness, and darkness cannot exist without light – they are one in the same; two sides of the same coin.
This is where the concept of “Yin and Yang” comes from.
Yin and Yang: Two Parts of The Same Whole
Yin and Yang are often used to describe these “false dichotomies,” such as good/evil or light/dark.
Yin is the dark side – it is receptive, passive, and intuitive. Yang is the light side – it is assertive, active, and analytical.
Both yin and yang are two parts of the same whole – without yin, yang would have no contrast, and thus would not exist. Without yang, yin would have no contrast, and thus would not exist.
These two paradoxical forces, or “energies,” as I will refer to them, can also be used to understand the concepts of femininity and masculinity.
Feminine and Masculine Energy
Every human being has certain feminine characteristics and certain masculine characteristics.
Men are typically more assertive, confident, active, and direct. Women are typically more receptive, passive, intuitive, and indirect.
These characteristics can be understood through the lens of Yin and Yang – Yin is feminine energy, and Yang is masculine energy.
Thus, masculinity, in the spiritual sense, means to embody “Yang,” and femininity, in the spiritual sense, means to embody “Ying.” Masculinity is identical to Yang, and Femininity is identical to Ying.
That is not to say that a man is not receptive or nurturing at times – it is crucial to have a balanced spirit. However, his predominant “energy,” will be that of Yang.
This is also not to say that women are sometimes assertive, direct, or logical; certainly they are at times. However, their predominant “energy,” is that of Yin.
Sexual Polarity
It is important to note that Yin and Yang are opposites, and that opposites attract.
When a man completely embodies his “Yang,” or his masculinity, women are very attracted to this on a deep level.
Likewise, when a woman completely embodies her “Yin,” or her feminine energy, men are very attracted to this.
In an ideal relationship, something very beautiful happens: a woman aligns her feminine energy with a man’s masculine energy, and they become one.
His masculinity complements her femininity. Their energy merges, in a sense, and aligns itself towards accomplishing a single, greater purpose.
This is why it is so important for a man to have a strong frame – feminine energy naturally detects when masculine energy is faulty…and if it’s faulty, or unsure of itself, feminine energy will not align itself with it.
Women know when their man isn’t 100% sure of himself, and they will not align with him until they have complete trust in his unwavering certitude.
This is why women test men – they want to see how sure of himself he is. Their feminine energy wants to experience the unwavering, constant, beacon of masculine energy that their man should embody.
Unfortunately, most men don’t ever fully embody their Yang. This is one of the reasons that I made this website. I want to help men develop their masculinity, in all senses of the word.
Yin: Feminine Energy
Have you ever met a woman who just oozed sex appeal? I know that I have.
It’s something that you can’t pinpoint – it’s in the way that she moves, it’s in the way that she talks.
I didn’t realize it at the time, but this “sex appeal,” that I recognized was her embodying yin.
Whenever a woman is very sexy, it is because she embodies yin – it shows itself through her body language, facial expressions, tone of voice, and other nonverbal communications.
To embody yin means to be receptive. It is feminine to be receptive. It means to be passive, and it means to be nurturing.
Women want to receive energy from their environment – this is what feminine energy wants.
Feminine energy is receptive, it is passive. Its counterpart is that which is active. To feel is to receive. Women want to receive masculine energy – it completes them.
To put this in layman’s terms, women want to “vibe” off of a man. They want him to have a very strong sense of reality, and they want him to “penetrate” her, spiritually. They want to receive his reality; to be drawn into his world.
Feminine energy is intuitive – this is why women are often much more adept at social communication than men. Women are clearly experts at reading social cues and interpreting the emotional side of reality.
This is what feminine energy does. It does not “think,” but rather, it “feels.”
Do not place a label on whether it is better to feel or to think – men frequently think that logic is superior to emotions, however this is not the case. They complement one another; both are two sides of the same coin, and are appropriate in different situations.
Feminine energy, due to its chaotic, ever-changing, emotional nature, is drawn to logical, firm, steady masculine energy. Yang, or masculine energy, serves as a lighthouse, so to speak, that constantly grounds the tumultuous waves of emotion which feminine energy revels in.
Yang: Masculine Energy
Embodying masculinity, or masculine energy, is how you can become spiritually attractive.
As a man, you do not have to be physically aesthetic to be very attractive to women.
There are some men that women find absolutely irresistible…and it has nothing to do with their appearance.
Look at Daniel Craig, Ryan Gosling, and Benedict Cumberbatch – they aren’t particularly physically attractive, but most women find them absolutely captivating.
Why? Because they embody masculine energy.
Does James Bond ever look uncertain? No, he knows what he wants and he goes after it. He is active – he acts on his environment, he does not get blown around like a leaf in the wind. He is the wind.
Does Ryan Gosling ever seem ashamed of his personality, or insecure? No. He is extremely expressive of himself through his body language, facial expressions, and other nonverbals. He acts on his environment, it does not act on him.
Masculine energy is active and assertive – it knows where it is going. Masculinity does not receive, but rather it goes forth. Masculine energy influences its environment, not the other way around.
Masculine energy is very clear in its intent – there is never a doubt in its mind. It knows what it wants, and it takes action to get it.
Masculinity is persistent and impregnable – it goes outward, expresses itself, and influences its reality.
It acts on its reality, rather than reality acting on it.
This is what makes a man truly sexy – when he is the cause and not the effect, when he is completely himself and serves as a beacon for others to follow, when he is assertive and active, and when he does not let external reality dictate his internal reality.
When you begin to embody masculine energy, your life will naturally come together.
When you begin to embody masculine energy, your health, finances, emotions, and sex life will all improve.
You will find yourself making decisions with ease, that would have previously flustered you. You will find yourself pursuing the job that you really want, the relationships that you really want, and the goals that you really want to achieve.
To Embody Yang Find Your Purpose
Remember – Yang, or masculine energy, is active. It is assertive; it knows where it is going and what it wants.
So in order to embody Yang, and become truly spiritually attractive, you must create, or should I say…discover, your life’s purpose.
Discovering your life’s purpose is not easy. We are trained from a young age to shut up and follow the status quo.
Consequently, much of our natural passion and desire is crushed out of us. But there is hope – it can be cultivated and brought back to life.
This is a gargantuan task, and it will take an enormous amount of introspection and effort, but it is completely possible.
I’ll be blogging more about how to find your purpose in the future, but for now take a look at The War of Art by Steven Pressfield. It presents you with a compass that can be used to seek out your true purpose.
Trust me – I realize that it’s far easier to just leave this page and go about your life, but when you’re on your deathbed, I promise that you will look back and regret not discovering your true purpose, and making the world a better place.
If you guys have any questions, comments, or concerns, let me know. I hope you all enjoyed the article.
Until Next Time,
-Jon
About the Author Jon Anthony
After learning to successfully trade the market, build a six pack, start a social circle from scratch, and increase his IQ by 15 points, Jon Anthony has decided to teach others how they can, too. He plans to move to Las Vegas next year to invest in real estate and live it up.
