When it comes to hitting on girls, your “opening line” is often the most important thing you say. Far too many guys go in without a plan, just saying whatever comes to mind. And while this does work if you’re a “natural,” it doesn’t work for most of us.
That’s why it’s important you familiarize yourself with the six types of openers. Once you become familiar with these, you’ll be able to chat a girl up anytime, anywhere, and in any way. Obviously it will take a lot of practice, but it’s not that hard.
In the PUA world, there are six types of openers:
…and while you certainly don’t have to memorize every single one of these types of openers, it doesn’t hurt to know a few. So with that in mind, here’s the Masculine Development guide to the six types of openers, and how to use each one depending on the situation.
The opinion opener was put first for a reason—it’s the easiest opener by far, and it has a very low chance of failure. Everyone likes to give their opinion on stuff, ESPECIALLY girls, and ESPECIALLY if the question you ask is a good one (which I’m going to help you with).
Opinion pickup lines are basically just that: you’re asking for her opinion. The trick however is to choose the right opinion opener, so that you can steer the conversation in the right way. So with that in mind, here’s my favorite opinion opener: “Is it cheating if a guy still has pictures of his ex on his phone?”
It’s not hard to see why that’s my favorite opinion opener, I hope. Girls will instantly jump on it and argue left and right, because odds are, they’ve probably dated a player before who’s done EXACTLY that. It’s also a subtly sexual topic, which is good to segway into other things.
Some of these openers will only work if you have the right type of “vibe,” and this is one of them. No girl wants a guy to walk up and creepily compliment her shorts or something weird like that. Like the old saying goes: “Women don’t mind being flirted with. They just don’t want someone who’s bad at it to do it.”
In order for a compliment opener to work, you generally need two things going for you in that moment:
In other words, if the compliment is something like “nice hair” or something, it probably won’t work. Contrast this with something like: “Wow, I really like your hair—the highlights bring out your eye color really well.” Of course, you want an attractive, masculine vibe before you say this, though. Otherwise it may come off as needy.
Personally, I’m not a big fan of these types of openers because they almost never come off as genuine. That being said, I have used them to some success before. They work ESPECIALLY well if you’re in a new city you’ve never been to, and/or if you’re traveling abroad.
Functional openers are things like asking for directions somewhere. So you may say something like “Hey, I’m new here—where’s a really cool nightclub?” or something. The benefit to this is that it’s not overtly sexual, but the drawback is that it can seem like you were just too afraid to be direct in the first place.
Another functional opener might be something like “I’m really bad at taking pictures, can you help me with a selfie real quick?” or “Do you have the WiFi password here?” Again like most openers, they work best when what you’re asking for is actually needed and not just an excuse to talk with her.
Direct openers are great for newbies, but as you get more advanced they can be come a crutch—and here’s why. The good thing about a direct opener is that it’s obviously very direct. You’re explicit about the fact that you find her attractive, and this can work well for those who struggle with being sexual.
On the flip side however, they can become a crutch. These types of openers give away your power, remove the mystery and intrigue from the interaction, and most importantly they kill sexual tension. Again though, like any opener, they can work very well given the right circumstances.
A typical direct opener would be something like: “Excuse me, but I just saw you here and thought you looked gorgeous. I’d be kicking myself all day if I didn’t say hi, so what’s up?” This is a common day game opener, but again, it’s best for newbies to use it until they become comfortable with expressing their sexuality.
An introductory opener is just what it sounds like—you get her to introduce you to her friends. This works great in large groups, and for pivots (girls who can help hook you up with their girlfriends). It’s not very good for opening a specific target though.
That being said, this is one of my favorite types of openers, because it rapidly builds social capital. Examples of an introductory opener would be something like:
Introductory openers are great if you’re trying to build a social circle, because they expose you to a large number of people very quickly. That being said, from here you’ll have to use other types of openers once you see the girl that you want within said group.
The observational opener, or a “spontaneous” opener, is my favorite type of opener BY FAR. For this type of opener, you basically just state something about the girl you’re attracted to, in the form of an observation. So, for example, here’s a few of my favorite observational openers:
The observational opener is BY FAR my favorite type of opener, for multiple reasons. First off, it’s easy to do. You don’t need to memorize any sort of weird lines or flowcharts, you just say something that you observe about her. Second, it immediately creates intrigue.
Naturally she’s going to ask: “WHAT? Why do you think that?” which gives you an immediate chance to work your magic. In fact, these openers are my #1 choice for not only in-person game, but for text game and Tinder game as well.
All of these pickup lines are extremely powerful, and I urge you to use them at your own risk. Once you start using them, you’ll be SHOCKED at how easy it is to open girls anytime, anywhere. Many guys go through a “red pill crisis,” once they realize how easy girls can be when you know just what to say.
It’s important to note however, that the real master key to call of this, is your VIBE. Without a strong masculine vibe, which comes from deep inner work and emotional shifts, many of these lines will fall flat on their face. When you have a strong masculine frame and mindset, it’s like pouring rocket fuel into your game.
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Of course, I hope you guys enjoyed the article. I’m doing a lot more game-specific posts now that I’ve got a lot of the general principles on the blog, so let me know what you think. If you guys have any questions or concerns, let me know in the comments section below—and as always, I’ll see you next time!
Jon Anthony is a world renowned dating coach and the founder of Masculine Development, a website specifically dedicated to helping men improve their personal, dating, and financial lives. After years of training men how to attract women, build muscle, and make more money, Jon created the "7 Strategies" program to help kickstart your journey to success. Jon firmly believes that every man should have control over his own life, and he created Masculine Development to share his passion with men who want success in all areas.